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Could do with some job purrs (OT)
Tomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line
manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Anyway when I took the original grievance out her line manager asked if I would like her to line manage me and I said wait and see what happens.. Well I waited and saw what happened and I do not want her as my line manager- the timing of the second referral reeks if you'll pardon the pun of her trying to show me there;s no point in disobeying her (she is a control freak) and I had better take it lying down or else,,,, This is not going to be pretty but I am not going to let her intimidate any longer I am a camel and this is the last straw I think I am going to write it all out and give it to her line manager to read because I will be in tears if I try to talk as it is I've had 4 days off and spent much of them worrying about what will happen Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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Lesley Madigan wrote:
snip Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Support purrs on the way, though it sounds like you have a very good case and probably won't need them. -- Adrian (Owned by Bagheera & Shadow) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk |
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Job purrs are on the way - good luck, sweetie.
-- Hugs, CatNipped See all our masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped See the RPCA FAQ site, by Mark Edwards, at: http://www.professional-geek.com/rpcablog/ "Lesley Madigan" wrote in message ... Tomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Anyway when I took the original grievance out her line manager asked if I would like her to line manage me and I said wait and see what happens.. Well I waited and saw what happened and I do not want her as my line manager- the timing of the second referral reeks if you'll pardon the pun of her trying to show me there;s no point in disobeying her (she is a control freak) and I had better take it lying down or else,,,, This is not going to be pretty but I am not going to let her intimidate any longer I am a camel and this is the last straw I think I am going to write it all out and give it to her line manager to read because I will be in tears if I try to talk as it is I've had 4 days off and spent much of them worrying about what will happen Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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Bucket loads of purrs on their way...having worked for someone with a
similar lack of people management skills I really feel for you Lesley, they can make life miserable...hope you get the support you need from her line manager. Shirley "Lesley Madigan" wrote in message ... Tomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Anyway when I took the original grievance out her line manager asked if I would like her to line manage me and I said wait and see what happens.. Well I waited and saw what happened and I do not want her as my line manager- the timing of the second referral reeks if you'll pardon the pun of her trying to show me there;s no point in disobeying her (she is a control freak) and I had better take it lying down or else,,,, This is not going to be pretty but I am not going to let her intimidate any longer I am a camel and this is the last straw I think I am going to write it all out and give it to her line manager to read because I will be in tears if I try to talk as it is I've had 4 days off and spent much of them worrying about what will happen Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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On Nov 2, 10:01*am, "shirleycatuk" wrote:
...hope you get the support you need from her line manager. If I didn't think there was a good chance that I would then I wouldn't be talking to her- it was her who encouraged me to take out the first grievance and upheld it. she's pretty nice and a stickler for the rules to be followed Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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"Lesley Madigan" wrote in message Are you in a union? If so, refer the whole thing to them. You have to agree to be referred to Occupational Health and there needs to be a good reason for that, like you are away from work for a long time. If someone thinks you smell, that's not a good enough reason and as far as I know you can refuse your OH appt if that's the the only reason for that. The issue of personal hygiene can be dealt with at a local level by your line manager. Tweed ------------- sTomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Anyway when I took the original grievance out her line manager asked if I would like her to line manage me and I said wait and see what happens.. Well I waited and saw what happened and I do not want her as my line manager- the timing of the second referral reeks if you'll pardon the pun of her trying to show me there;s no point in disobeying her (she is a control freak) and I had better take it lying down or else,,,, This is not going to be pretty but I am not going to let her intimidate any longer I am a camel and this is the last straw I think I am going to write it all out and give it to her line manager to read because I will be in tears if I try to talk as it is I've had 4 days off and spent much of them worrying about what will happen Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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Lesley Madigan wrote:
Tomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Wow! This woman has some serious emotional problems. It is so hard to deal with people who won't accept responsibility for any of their actions - and much more so when that person is your boss. As for the "odor" problem - I was once harassed about that on a job. My supervisor threatened to move my desk so that I sat obviously apart from everyone else, if I didn't "clean up". Since I didn't have a hygiene problem, there was nothing I could do to change anything, so I said that if she did that, I'd quit on the spot. My voice broke as I said that, which was embarrassing, but she backed down anyway. So I know how *that* feels. It's humiliating. Even when you know it's just being done for harassment, you feel dirty somehow. Well, I did. I hope the meeting goes well! You definitely need a new manager. Joyce -- I will not sniff at my male human's feet after he takes his shoes off, freeze my mouth open in disgust and then sniff my private parts to compare odors. -- Cat Resolutions |
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On Nov 2, 10:59*am, "Christina Websell"
wrote: Are you in a union? *If so, refer the whole thing to them. They know the situation I am far from the only member who has issues with this manager *You have to agree to be referred to Occupational Health Under NHS rules a manager can refer you without your consent apparently *If someone thinks you smell, that's not a good enough reason I doubt whether it's even true I shower every morning without fail- the only comments ever made to me on the matter have been to ask me what my perfume is as it really smells nice besides which she referred to it as "an odour" what does that mean? The only thing I can think of is that when it rains heavily my waterproof jacket can smell slightly of chemicals when wet - I know about this- I keep air freshner in my office for this and for occasions ,like when I have fish and chips for lunch .. The issue of personal hygiene can be dealt with at a local level by your line manager. Indeed if she was handling the issue tactfully and sensibly I might even be inclined to let it go but she's not from where I am sitting it reads that she got caught out (her line manager did not believe someone with 2+ years management experience in our Trust and more elsewhere could not read and interpret the Trust wide sickness policy accurately to the extent she waited 8 weeks to take an arbitary action of sending a referral to OH- when she wanted to know why I was complaining now and not at my stage 1 meeting was horrified that I had not even had one) so she figured she'd make up some wild accusation preferably one she hoped would upset me so much maybe I'd just roll over and beg so she could just do what she wanted anyway Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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On Nov 2, 11:16*am, wrote:
So I know how *that* feels. It's humiliating. Even when you know it's just being done for harassment, you feel dirty somehow. Well, I did. I did feel like that- I think she was hoping I would so mortified I'd just let it go ahead but I don't have a problem as I said in the last post I shower every morning, wear clean clothes, apply perfume and deodourant clean my teeth etc and at lunchtime I freshen up with a facial wipe and top up my perfume. In fact in no particular order I probably smell of tea tree and mint (shower gel), perfume, exotic flowers and ylang ylang (washing liquid) and lotus and black diamonds (fabric conditioner) Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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i won't go into detail, but i haave felt this pain, will set all the cats to
purring asap, Lee "Lesley Madigan" wrote in message ... Tomorrow I am having to go to work and ask my line manager;s line manager to become my line manager.....The week before last I had a grievance upheld about an inappropriate referral to Occupational Health- for most of that week and the week after she was off sick.There's a lot of bad feeling about her, we have regular mediation meetings and she's already having special meetings with 2 of the others- she's alienated everyone pretty much- this has been going on and off for over 2 years the only time it stops is when she's on long term sick, which she pretty much does once a year but although she's made some comments and decisions I didn't agree with (Like when I had to leave early because Dave's dad died and when she found out all she could say was "When will you make the time up?") I have tried to stay out of it because firstly I come to do my job and go home I don't much fancy taking sides etc and secondly I am not in the same office so don't have too much to with her and thirdly she's very loud and comes accross as a bit intimidating even when I don't think she means to be and I am not very good at handling intimidation.. Anyway at the end of last week we had our monthly 1 to 1 and at the end of it she casually remarked she;d sent off the referral to Occupational Health and I should get an appoinment soon.....I did a double take and she said a comment had been made about an "odour" so she could do it i.e. someone says I smell. Huh? Of course she can't tell me who but given she's hardly been in since my grievance was upheld it's very convenient timing, it's also a rather extreme reaction and as she can't tell me for all I know she's making it up unless it was a comment made ages ago and she's been saving it up- the origins of my first grievance were that she took 8 weeks to do something, which I should have had an informal meeting about first (Or as my friend Helena put it "8 weeks?! Was she saving it up for when she was in a bad mood?!") She then turns round and says she's being supportive of me I said I didn't think she was and the next second she snaps "If you think I'm being vindictive, intimidating or harrassing you have to tell me NOW!" I actually for a second thought she might lash out one thing you quickly learn with her is she never did anything- we;ve had statements at mediation and as soon as a person tries to say she did something she starts shouting them down and saying it wasn't like that and they;'re making it up even when witnessess can collaborate. If you had video footage of her eating a baby she'd choose between 1. You've got it in for me so much you've hired a stunt double. 2. It wasn't a baby it was a baby shaped cake or 3. I never wanted anyone to know I have an evil identical twin sister Then she started going about how SHE was hurt when I took that grievance out I was lucky I had another meeting to go to so I got out of there (This meeting being with the works counselling service due to the stress of working with her and she knows all about it). Anyway when I took the original grievance out her line manager asked if I would like her to line manage me and I said wait and see what happens.. Well I waited and saw what happened and I do not want her as my line manager- the timing of the second referral reeks if you'll pardon the pun of her trying to show me there;s no point in disobeying her (she is a control freak) and I had better take it lying down or else,,,, This is not going to be pretty but I am not going to let her intimidate any longer I am a camel and this is the last straw I think I am going to write it all out and give it to her line manager to read because I will be in tears if I try to talk as it is I've had 4 days off and spent much of them worrying about what will happen Could definitely do with some purrs of support here Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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