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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
She's been agitated throughout the night and is complaining of unspecific
pain. Sometimes she acts like it's her stomach, other times like its chest pain. She keeps rolling around on the bed. (BTW, that bed rail and a pile of pillows on the other side keep her from rolling off.) She only ate a few bites of food yesterday (egg-a-cup, a fantanstic McQuown presentation of 3-minute soft boiled eggs with a pat of butter, salt & pepper served in - what else? a cup More correctly, a coffee mug I've got calls into the hospice nurse for stronger pain medication. I've also asked her doctor to come by. The Ativan isn't helping at all with her agitation this time. Fortunately we got the side rail assembled yesterday afternoon.. That seems to have helped. This morning she's very restless. Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. Well hell. He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. (Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. I called my brother last night and asked him to make copies of and send me the HPOA and Living Will/DNR, Told him last night make a gazillion copies at your office and mail them to me NOW! My brother was complaining because the woman who organizes the Thanksgiving pot luck at the office was sick. So he had to take over cooking an 18 lb turkey on a Ronco rotisserie. Oh, you poor thing. Your life just sucks, doesn't it? LOL Our mother is dying but I'm so glad you figured out the rotisserie and the turkey turned out okay. Asshole. Jill |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
"jmcquown" wrote in message ... She's been agitated throughout the night and is complaining of unspecific pain. Sometimes she acts like it's her stomach, other times like its chest pain. She keeps rolling around on the bed. (BTW, that bed rail and a pile of pillows on the other side keep her from rolling off.) She only ate a few bites of food yesterday (egg-a-cup, a fantanstic McQuown presentation of 3-minute soft boiled eggs with a pat of butter, salt & pepper served in - what else? a cup More correctly, a coffee mug I've got calls into the hospice nurse for stronger pain medication. I've also asked her doctor to come by. The Ativan isn't helping at all with her agitation this time. Fortunately we got the side rail assembled yesterday afternoon.. That seems to have helped. This morning she's very restless. Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. Well hell. He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. (Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. I called my brother last night and asked him to make copies of and send me the HPOA and Living Will/DNR, Told him last night make a gazillion copies at your office and mail them to me NOW! My brother was complaining because the woman who organizes the Thanksgiving pot luck at the office was sick. So he had to take over cooking an 18 lb turkey on a Ronco rotisserie. Oh, you poor thing. Your life just sucks, doesn't it? LOL Our mother is dying but I'm so glad you figured out the rotisserie and the turkey turned out okay. Asshole. Jill Your poor brother. I'm so glad to see he of such great support to you (NOT). I am also glad to see that even in the midst of all of this, you still have a sense of humor about the absolute absurd going on in your life. I wish my sisters could look at the things going on in their lives and laugh about the most absurd parts to help them get through the difficult stuff. You rock, Jill. Bridget |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
"jmcquown" wrote in message ... This morning she's very restless. Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. Well hell. He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. (Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. Jill This is very common. My mother used to ask why my father had not come in to see her even though he had died many years earlier. I soon learned that it was useless to try to apply "reason" because Mother simply did not understand. If she did, she would have forgotten by the next time she asked -- and she asked on an almost daily basis. I would tell her that he was not in town, and reassured her that he would not deliberately leave her alone and that he would be there if he could. That always seemed to comfort her. There was no purpose in giving her the "realistic" explanation that Dad had died because that would only hurt her, and then she would not be able to remember it the next time. It may have been a way for the brain to create a more soothing enviornment because it meant that she did not have to deal with the loss of her husband of 56 years. MaryL |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
On Sat, 22 Nov 2008 09:39:23 -0600, MaryL wrote:
"jmcquown" wrote in message ... This morning she's very restless. Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. Well hell. He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. (Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. Jill This is very common. My mother used to ask why my father had not come in to see her even though he had died many years earlier. I soon learned that it was useless to try to apply "reason" because Mother simply did not understand. If she did, she would have forgotten by the next time she asked -- and she asked on an almost daily basis. I would tell her that he was not in town, and reassured her that he would not deliberately leave her alone and that he would be there if he could. That always seemed to comfort her. There was no purpose in giving her the "realistic" explanation that Dad had died because that would only hurt her, and then she would not be able to remember it the next time. It may have been a way for the brain to create a more soothing enviornment because it meant that she did not have to deal with the loss of her husband of 56 years. MaryL My mother died about six months before my father died. He was already showing signs of dementia before her death, and, after her death, had a series of small strokes that rapidly made him more confused. Part of the time he remembered that she was dead, and part of the time he didn't. Unfortunately, at the times when he did remember, the grief was as intense as if he had just lost her a few days earlier. -- John F. Eldredge -- PGP key available from http://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
On Nov 22, 9:54�am, "John F. Eldredge" wrote:
On Sat, 22 Nov 2008 09:39:23 -0600, MaryL wrote: "jmcquown" wrote in message ... �This morning she's very restless. �Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. �Well hell. �He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. �They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. �(Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) �Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. �Jill This is very common. �My mother used to ask why my father had not come in to see her even though he had died many years earlier. �I soon learned that it was useless to try to apply "reason" because Mother simply did not understand. �If she did, she would have forgotten by the next time she asked -- and she asked on an almost daily basis. �I would tell her that he was not in town, and reassured her that he would not deliberately leave her alone and that he would be there if he could. That always seemed to comfort her. �There was no purpose in giving her the "realistic" explanation that Dad had died because that would only hurt her, and then she would not be able to remember it the next time. It may have been a way for the brain to create a more soothing enviornment because it meant that she did not have to deal with the loss of her husband of 56 years. MaryL My mother died about six months before my father died. �He was already showing signs of dementia before her death, and, after her death, had a series of small strokes that rapidly made him more confused. �Part of the time he remembered that she was dead, and part of the time he didn't. � Unfortunately, at the times when he did remember, the grief was as intense as if he had just lost her a few days earlier. -- John F. Eldredge -- PGP key available fromhttp://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - That's really sad. I think MaryL is right that there is no good in trying to force the patient to live in the present. Let them believe whatever makes them happy, and go along with it. That is what my sister and I did, sometimes when we left the room *we* had to adjust back to what was reality. Sherry |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
"Sherry" wrote in message ... On Nov 22, 9:54�am, "John F. Eldredge" wrote: On Sat, 22 Nov 2008 09:39:23 -0600, MaryL wrote: "jmcquown" wrote in message ... �This morning she's very restless. �Asking why her husband isn't in bed with her. �Well hell. �He wasn't in the same country when I was was born. I have no idea where he was when my brothers were born. �They've had separate bedrooms since 1975. �(Maybe he snuck into her room or vice versa.) �Why isn't he in bed with her is not a question I can answer. �Jill This is very common. �My mother used to ask why my father had not come in to see her even though he had died many years earlier. �I soon learned that it was useless to try to apply "reason" because Mother simply did not understand. �If she did, she would have forgotten by the next time she asked -- and she asked on an almost daily basis. �I would tell her that he was not in town, and reassured her that he would not deliberately leave her alone and that he would be there if he could. That always seemed to comfort her. �There was no purpose in giving her the "realistic" explanation that Dad had died because that would only hurt her, and then she would not be able to remember it the next time. It may have been a way for the brain to create a more soothing enviornment because it meant that she did not have to deal with the loss of her husband of 56 years. MaryL My mother died about six months before my father died. �He was already showing signs of dementia before her death, and, after her death, had a series of small strokes that rapidly made him more confused. �Part of the time he remembered that she was dead, and part of the time he didn't. � Unfortunately, at the times when he did remember, the grief was as intense as if he had just lost her a few days earlier. -- John F. Eldredge -- PGP key available fromhttp://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - That's really sad. I think MaryL is right that there is no good in trying to force the patient to live in the present. Let them believe whatever makes them happy, and go along with it. That is what my sister and I did, sometimes when we left the room *we* had to adjust back to what was reality. Sherry Yes, that's exactly what worked for my mother, and I hope it would work with Jill's. Mother sometime would even say that a friend had visited earlier that day. The friend would be someone she went to school with 70 years ago. I tried to explain that she must be mistaken the first couple of times it happened, then I realized that she simply could not be able to comprehend. It was better for her to simply accept that and have a nice conversation about the "visit." MaryL |
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Update on my Mom 11/21/08 (OT)
On Nov 22, 5:51*am, "jmcquown" wrote:
My brother was complaining because the woman who organizes the Thanksgiving pot luck at the office was sick. *So he had to take over cooking an 18 lb turkey on a Ronco rotisserie. *Oh, you poor thing. *Your life just sucks, doesn't it? *LOL *Our mother is dying but I'm so glad you figured out the rotisserie and the turkey turned out okay. *Asshole. Dear Jill The more I hear about your brother the more I want to meet him.....armed and extrenely dangerous! Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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