UPDATE... HELP!! Sitter needed for my two fur babies!

On Tue, 23 Sep 2003 22:55:05 GMT, "L. Kelly"
wrote:

Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have called all of the local
shelters in Alberta and no one can or will help me. It appears that there are many, many
men who are beating up on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than physically abusive
situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have to accuse my boyfriend of hitting me
when he hasn't, and have him charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on abuse. If I
don't lie to get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the meantime, he goes
to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with myself if I made a false
accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never tolerate that again,
however, I find that the emotional abuse is much worse than anything I ever endured
physically. It leaves scars that will never heal. Bruises and broken bones get better in
time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room. If anyone in Alberta
has a room for my boys and I, for a short period of time, it would be greatly
appreciated. I have very little money (only enough to feed myself and my boys), but will
be looking for work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay room and board
and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along okay. We can help each other.

Sorry to hear this, and sending purrs and prayers that you can get
away into a safe environment.

Emotional abuse is every bit as devastating as physical abuse, so I'm
sorry to hear that it isn't treated the same. On the other hand, if
the shelters are already full with those suffering physical abuse I
guess that they have to draw the line somewhere - I'm just sorry that
there are so many abusers that shelters can't help everyone.

Oh Lynn, my heart goes out to you, I am in NZ so am not much of a help but
will be purring and praying that you get things sorted out soon as possible.
Keep your chin up and stay positive.

Lois

"L. Kelly" wrote in message
.ca...
Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have called
all of the local
shelters in Alberta and no one can or will help me. It appears that there
are many, many
men who are beating up on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How
sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than physically
abusive
situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have to accuse my boyfriend
of hitting me
when he hasn't, and have him charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on
abuse. If I
don't lie to get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the
meantime, he goes
to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with myself if I
made a false
accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never tolerate
that again,
however, I find that the emotional abuse is much worse than anything I
ever endured
physically. It leaves scars that will never heal. Bruises and broken bones
get better in
time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room. If
anyone in Alberta
has a room for my boys and I, for a short period of time, it would be
greatly
appreciated. I have very little money (only enough to feed myself and my
boys), but will
be looking for work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay
room and board
and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along okay. We can
help each other.

--
Hugs,
Lynn


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in article , L. Kelly at
wrote on 9/23/03 5:55 PM:

Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have called all
of the local
shelters in Alberta and no one can or will help me. It appears that there are
many, many
men who are beating up on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How
sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than physically
abusive
situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have to accuse my boyfriend of
hitting me
when he hasn't, and have him charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on
abuse. If I
don't lie to get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the
meantime, he goes
to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with myself if I made a
false
accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never tolerate that
again,
however, I find that the emotional abuse is much worse than anything I ever
endured
physically. It leaves scars that will never heal. Bruises and broken bones get
better in
time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room. If anyone
in Alberta
has a room for my boys and I, for a short period of time, it would be greatly
appreciated. I have very little money (only enough to feed myself and my
boys), but will
be looking for work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay
room and board
and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along okay. We can help
each other.

--
Hugs,
Lynn


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Lynn, have you any connections to churches in your area? Some of them may
have a program set up for such a situation. Even if you don't attend the
church, they might be able to help. Purrs for something to happen for you
soon.

karen

Purrs that you get help soon.

I wish I could help you...I'd loveto have you and your kitties at my
house....one problem, I am in Australia!!

Good luck finding somewhere

Angela and Gizmo

"L. Kelly" wrote in message
.ca...
Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have called
all of the local
shelters in Alberta and no one can or will help me. It appears that there
are many, many
men who are beating up on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How
sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than physically
abusive
situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have to accuse my boyfriend
of hitting me
when he hasn't, and have him charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on
abuse. If I
don't lie to get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the
meantime, he goes
to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with myself if I
made a false
accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never tolerate
that again,
however, I find that the emotional abuse is much worse than anything I
ever endured
physically. It leaves scars that will never heal. Bruises and broken bones
get better in
time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room. If
anyone in Alberta
has a room for my boys and I, for a short period of time, it would be
greatly
appreciated. I have very little money (only enough to feed myself and my
boys), but will
be looking for work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay
room and board
and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along okay. We can
help each other.

--
Hugs,
Lynn


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L. Kelly wrote:
Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have
called all of the local shelters in Alberta and no one can or will
help me. It appears that there are many, many men who are beating up
on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than
physically abusive situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have
to accuse my boyfriend of hitting me when he hasn't, and have him
charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on abuse. If I don't lie to
get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the meantime, he
goes to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with
myself if I made a false accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never
tolerate that again, however, I find that the emotional abuse is much
worse than anything I ever endured physically. It leaves scars that
will never heal. Bruises and broken bones get better in time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room.
If anyone in Alberta has a room for my boys and I, for a short period
of time, it would be greatly appreciated. I have very little money
(only enough to feed myself and my boys), but will be looking for
work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay room and
board and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along
okay. We can help each other.

DAMN!! I hate when people say this, but i know what you're going through.
My man and i had alot of troubles that way too. He never was physically
violent, but called me down to the lowest all the time. At that time, i
think i would have preferred he hit me and then just shut up!! I was lucky
enough though that when i went to the shelter, he actually stayed in our
home and took care of the cats... ( we've since worked things out and get
along alot better. He works away and only visits on weekends, so now we
appreciate our time together rather than being stuck in each other's faces
all the time)

God i wish you lived down my way in NB, i would take you in in an instant!!
my kitties wouldn't be pleased, but i'm sure they'd adapt. I sure hope you
find a solution soon, noone should have to live with that kind of crap!

Kristy
--
"As God as my witness, I thought turkeys could fly." - Arthur Carlson

"L. Kelly" wrote in message
.ca...
Hi all...

It seems now that I need help as much as my kitty boys do. I have called
all of the local
shelters in Alberta and no one can or will help me. It appears that there
are many, many
men who are beating up on their wives, and the shelters are all full. How
sad... :-(

The problem is that because I am in an emotionally rather than physically
abusive
situation, I don't qualify for their help. I have to accuse my boyfriend
of hitting me
when he hasn't, and have him charged. This is the Canadian Legislation on
abuse. If I
don't lie to get help, then there is nothing out there for me. In the
meantime, he goes
to jail for something he has not done. I couldn't live with myself if I
made a false
accusation against him just to help myself.

I have been hit many times in past relationships and will never tolerate
that again,
however, I find that the emotional abuse is much worse than anything I
ever endured
physically. It leaves scars that will never heal. Bruises and broken bones
get better in
time.

So, I guess what I'm saying now is that I too am looking for a room. If
anyone in Alberta
has a room for my boys and I, for a short period of time, it would be
greatly
appreciated. I have very little money (only enough to feed myself and my
boys), but will
be looking for work as soon as I get settled someplace. I will happily pay
room and board
and maybe even stay on, if things work out and we get along okay. We can
help each other.

--
Hugs,
Lynn


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I wish I lived close enough to help. My guys will keep purring for you, and
I'll keep you in my thoughts.
hugs,
Brenda

Hi Lynn,

I called a Shelter in Alberta, and she told me that they are full today but
she thinks there will be some openings tomorrow. She also told me that
whomever you spoke with misguided you because phychological abuse is
recognized as domestic abuse (I know that in Ontario psychological abuse is
recognized as being just as damaging as physical abuse). The phone number
for you to call is 403-627-4868, she suggested you call her tomorrow and she
will help you get settled.

To be honest, I think would be best for you to get some support at a Women's
Shelter, as there is alot of adjustments that you need to go through right
now they can provide you withthe emotional support to start rebuilding your
self-esteem. It is important you focus on gaining your confidence back
before you start trying to get out in the workforce.

Good luck,

Fuga

You are right, Lynn, emotional abuse is just as debilitating as physical
abuse, or even more so. Many purrs coming over for you and your boys. We
hope you find somewhere soon.

--
Marina, Frank and Nikki
marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi

| Lynn, have you any connections to churches in your area? Some of them may
| have a program set up for such a situation. Even if you don't attend the
| church, they might be able to help. Purrs for something to happen for you
| soon.
|
| karen
|

Hi Karen,

Thanks for the idea. I hadn't even thought of that one. I'm not much of a church-goer, so
the thought never crossed my mind. I can ask around tomorrow. I hope that if they can
help me, they can also help my boys. I won't leave here until they are taken care of.
--
Hugs,
Lynn


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"Gizela" u wrote in message
...
| Purrs that you get help soon.
|
| I wish I could help you...I'd loveto have you and your kitties at my
| house....one problem, I am in Australia!!
|
| Good luck finding somewhere
|
| Angela and Gizmo
|

Hi Angela,

You can help. Send me a plane ticket and I'm there, girl!! (Just kiddng...but what a
great fantasy!)

It has been my dream to go to Australia since I was 9 years old. I read a book called
"The Bush Baby" and Australia has never been far from my heart or mind since. I'm much,
much older than that now.
--
Hugs,
Lynn


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