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Purrs also for my father, please?
Purrs in abundance, my FIL is in a similar place, increasing dementia
and a failing heart, it's hard on relatives to see this happen to a loved one. {{{{{Jill}}}}} -- Shirley http://community.webshots.com/user/shirleycatuk "jmcquown" wrote in message ... Most of you know about his cancer. Some of you know about his mental health not being so good; he's falling further into that chasm known as Altzheimers. I called him yesterday morning and he didn't know who I was. He was going on and on about some check his *wife* (you mean my mother?!) had sent to some guy named Edwin and he wanted his money back. I kept asking him what he was talking about. He finally said, "Who am I talking to?" I said, "It's Jill." "Jill? My daughter, Jill? How did you get on the phone?" (huge sigh) Dad, I called you and you answered the phone. He really had no idea who he was talking to. I feel so sorry for my mom. Thank goodness she's cognizant but I have no idea how she deals with this day in and day out. I keep offering to go down there and help out but I'm told no. I can't force them to let me come visit so I'm just sitting up here frustrated. Mom has the patience of a saint; that's all I can say. Jill |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
On 2006-04-11, jmcquown penned:
Most of you know about his cancer. Some of you know about his mental health not being so good; he's falling further into that chasm known as Altzheimers. I called him yesterday morning and he didn't know who I was. He was going on and on about some check his *wife* (you mean my mother?!) had sent to some guy named Edwin and he wanted his money back. I kept asking him what he was talking about. He finally said, "Who am I talking to?" I said, "It's Jill." "Jill? My daughter, Jill? How did you get on the phone?" (huge sigh) Dad, I called you and you answered the phone. He really had no idea who he was talking to. I feel so sorry for my mom. Thank goodness she's cognizant but I have no idea how she deals with this day in and day out. I keep offering to go down there and help out but I'm told no. I can't force them to let me come visit so I'm just sitting up here frustrated. Mom has the patience of a saint; that's all I can say. I'm so sorry. Alzheimer's is cruel. Purrs for you and your parents. -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
On 2006-04-11, Enfilade penned:
I remember during high school, my best friend's grandma had Alzheimers and after the day she left the stove on all day and started a fire, her family realized they could not leave her alone. When her mom was at work and her dad was in the fields farming, my friend had to "baby sit" her grandma; she was always grateful that I didn't mind coming over and finding something to do in the house as opposed to going out, nor did I mind her grandmother's strange conversations or inability to remember who I was. It's so hard. My maternal grandmother lives in Germany, alone in an apartment. Her neighbors are afraid that she will burn down the apartment for similar reasons, although I don't think there's been a fire yet, just horrible smells. She refuses to move to an assisted living facility, claiming that she couldn't take her dog (which isn't true, and in any case her dog is young and would be better off with a more active owner). To add to all of this, my grandmother can be mean as a snake. She's extremely self-centered and she expects her neighbors to do everything for her without a word of thanks. It's just expected. *sigh* My mother is tormented by guilt when she's away from her mom, and just plain tormented when she's near. -- monique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
On Tue, 11 Apr 2006 13:31:13 -0600, "Monique Y. Mudama"
wrote: On 2006-04-11, Enfilade penned: I remember during high school, my best friend's grandma had Alzheimers and after the day she left the stove on all day and started a fire, her family realized they could not leave her alone. When her mom was at work and her dad was in the fields farming, my friend had to "baby sit" her grandma; she was always grateful that I didn't mind coming over and finding something to do in the house as opposed to going out, nor did I mind her grandmother's strange conversations or inability to remember who I was. It's so hard. My maternal grandmother lives in Germany, alone in an apartment. Her neighbors are afraid that she will burn down the apartment for similar reasons, although I don't think there's been a fire yet, just horrible smells. She refuses to move to an assisted living facility, claiming that she couldn't take her dog (which isn't true, and in any case her dog is young and would be better off with a more active owner). To add to all of this, my grandmother can be mean as a snake. She's extremely self-centered and she expects her neighbors to do everything for her without a word of thanks. It's just expected. *sigh* My mother is tormented by guilt when she's away from her mom, and just plain tormented when she's near. Unfortunately, when people develop dementia, whether Alzheimer's Syndrome or otherwise, their personalities often suffer. My father had dementia for the last three years or so of his life, both a steadily-progressing kind that caused visual hallucinations and also vascular dementia, which is to say a series of small strokes that affected his memory and reasoning abilities more than it did his physical abilities. He turned physically aggressive in his last few months, and started to swear and make occasional racist remarks, none of which had been characteristic of him earlier in life. -- John F. Eldredge -- PGP key available from http://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
jmcquown wrote:
Most of you know about his cancer. Some of you know about his mental health not being so good; he's falling further into that chasm known as Altzheimers. Purrs for your dad and especially your mum and you. It must be very hard to watch. Oh, and purrs for John too. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. marina (dot) kurten (at) iki (dot) fi Stories and pics at http://koti.welho.com/mkurten/ Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
jmcquown wrote:
Most of you know about his cancer. Some of you know about his mental health not being so good; he's falling further into that chasm known as Altzheimers. I called him yesterday morning and he didn't know who I was. He was going on and on about some check his *wife* (you mean my mother?!) had sent to some guy named Edwin and he wanted his money back. I kept asking him what he was talking about. He finally said, "Who am I talking to?" I said, "It's Jill." "Jill? My daughter, Jill? How did you get on the phone?" (huge sigh) Dad, I called you and you answered the phone. He really had no idea who he was talking to. I feel so sorry for my mom. Thank goodness she's cognizant but I have no idea how she deals with this day in and day out. I keep offering to go down there and help out but I'm told no. I can't force them to let me come visit so I'm just sitting up here frustrated. Mom has the patience of a saint; that's all I can say. Jill Having dealt with that through my wife's parents over the past few years you have my complete sympathy. Alzheimer's affects the caregivers almost as much as the patience. Mistletoe sends extra purrs for Persia to share with you on Missy's behalf. -- Sam, closely supervised by Mistletoe |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
Hugs and purrs, Jill. Between the tornadoes and the cancer and the
Alzheimers, you're having a very tough time, right now. I hope things improve soon. Melissa |
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Purrs also for my father, please?
"John F. Eldredge" wrote in message ... Unfortunately, when people develop dementia, whether Alzheimer's Syndrome or otherwise, their personalities often suffer. My father had dementia for the last three years or so of his life, both a steadily-progressing kind that caused visual hallucinations and also vascular dementia, which is to say a series of small strokes that affected his memory and reasoning abilities more than it did his physical abilities. He turned physically aggressive in his last few months, and started to swear and make occasional racist remarks, none of which had been characteristic of him earlier in life. This is what is exactly what is happening with my FIL sudden aggressive/abusive outbursts and hallucinations (visual and auditory - he hears things ) caused by his brain not getting enough oxygen because of strokes and a very weak heart. It's heartbreaking to watch the changes in a once articulate and eloquent man. -- Shirley http://community.webshots.com/user/shirleycatuk |
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