More info. on my neighbor's little dogs - Update

"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be pampered
and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles, and they
are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or even find out
if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she attempted to take her
own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I was very concerned about
this very thing, so I went early to a church meeting last night to see if
anyone had information about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By the time
I drove home, police cars and ambulances were parked in front of her house.
So, I have the information on what could be a very good adoption, but that
will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be pampered
and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles, and they
are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or even find
out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she attempted to take
her own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I was very concerned
about this very thing, so I went early to a church meeting last night to
see if anyone had information about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By
the time I drove home, police cars and ambulances were parked in front of
her house. So, I have the information on what could be a very good
adoption, but that will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little dogs.
You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have any
relatives you could talk to?

Joy

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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be
pampered and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles,
and they are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or
even find out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she
attempted to take her own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I
was very concerned about this very thing, so I went early to a church
meeting last night to see if anyone had information about local suicide
or crisis hotlines. By the time I drove home, police cars and ambulances
were parked in front of her house. So, I have the information on what
could be a very good adoption, but that will have to wait for awhile
during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little
dogs. You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have any
relatives you could talk to?

Joy


Yes, she has a mother (85 years old and recently hospitalized herself) and a
brother and sister-in-law. However, I don't feel that we should try to take
any action at all until she is lucid and capable of discussing this and of
making decisions.

MaryL

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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be
pampered and kept together. This person already has two elderly
poodles, and they are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on
this (or even find out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because
she attempted to take her own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically,
I was very concerned about this very thing, so I went early to a church
meeting last night to see if anyone had information about local suicide
or crisis hotlines. By the time I drove home, police cars and
ambulances were parked in front of her house. So, I have the information
on what could be a very good adoption, but that will have to wait for
awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little
dogs. You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have
any relatives you could talk to?

Joy


Yes, she has a mother (85 years old and recently hospitalized herself) and
a brother and sister-in-law. However, I don't feel that we should try to
take any action at all until she is lucid and capable of discussing this
and of making decisions.

MaryL

You're right, of course.

Joy

MaryL wrote:

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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be
pampered and kept together. This person already has two elderly
poodles, and they are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward
on this (or even find out if my neighbor will permit the adoption)
because she attempted to take her own life yesterday and is in ICU.
Ironically, I was very concerned about this very thing, so I went
early to a church meeting last night to see if anyone had information
about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By the time I drove home,
police cars and ambulances were parked in front of her house. So, I
have the information on what could be a very good adoption, but that
will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little
dogs. You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have
any relatives you could talk to?

Joy


Yes, she has a mother (85 years old and recently hospitalized herself)
and a brother and sister-in-law. However, I don't feel that we should
try to take any action at all until she is lucid and capable of
discussing this and of making decisions.

MaryL



Perhaps it would work best to suggest a "foster home" until she is able
to agree to adoption. Do you think the good couple would agree to act
in that capacity? What a mess. Sending you purrs and prayers for your
efforts. MLB

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MaryL wrote:

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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be
pampered and kept together. This person already has two elderly
poodles, and they are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on
this (or even find out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because
she attempted to take her own life yesterday and is in ICU.
Ironically, I was very concerned about this very thing, so I went early
to a church meeting last night to see if anyone had information about
local suicide or crisis hotlines. By the time I drove home, police
cars and ambulances were parked in front of her house. So, I have the
information on what could be a very good adoption, but that will have
to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little
dogs. You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have
any relatives you could talk to?

Joy


Yes, she has a mother (85 years old and recently hospitalized herself)
and a brother and sister-in-law. However, I don't feel that we should
try to take any action at all until she is lucid and capable of
discussing this and of making decisions.

MaryL



Perhaps it would work best to suggest a "foster home" until she is able to
agree to adoption. Do you think the good couple would agree to act in
that capacity? What a mess. Sending you purrs and prayers for your
efforts. MLB

She is being involuntarily committed by law enforcement, but it's not clear
how long that will last. Her mother is coming over to take care of the dogs
for the time being, so they would not fall under jurisdiction of animal
control. They are not getting the type of care I would prefer but
definitely not to the extent where animal control would seize them. I may
end of taking over again on a *very* temporary basis just to help her
mother. I'm really concerned about her health, but fostering is something I
have also been considering. I need to talk to the potential adoptors to see
if that is a possibility.

MaryL

i will pray for her to get better and make good decisions, and i will pray
for you to be able to deal with all of this stress, Lee
"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be pampered
and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles, and they
are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or even find
out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she attempted to take
her own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I was very concerned
about this very thing, so I went early to a church meeting last night to
see if anyone had information about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By
the time I drove home, police cars and ambulances were parked in front of
her house. So, I have the information on what could be a very good
adoption, but that will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

MaryL wrote:

I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be pampered
and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles, and they
are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or even find out
if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she attempted to take her
own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I was very concerned about
this very thing, so I went early to a church meeting last night to see if
anyone had information about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By the time
I drove home, police cars and ambulances were parked in front of her house.
So, I have the information on what could be a very good adoption, but that
will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

Good God! I admit I wasn't following this story really carefully - although
I did read your first couple of posts on it. But nothing you said about
this woman clued me in to this. I guess you were more observant about what
was going on with her. I thought her behavior was weird and irresponsible,
and as several people said, she seemed to be using you, and you were
rightfully fed up.

But now I wonder whether it wasn't so much her using you as it was her
simply being unable to make a decision, due to severe depression? Although
I still don't think you're obligated to drop everything for her. You
should do whatever you feel capable and willing to do. I think you've
done plenty by finding a home for the dogs.

But this revelation does give me a different perspective on her behavior.

Purrs for your neighbor, her poor dogs, and you!

Joyce

--
Who ever thought up the word "Mammogram"? Every time I hear it, I think
I'm supposed to put my breast in an envelope and send it to someone.
-- Jan King

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On Oct 14, 5:07 pm, MLB wrote:
MaryL wrote:

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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be
pampered and kept together. This person already has two elderly
poodles, and they are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward
on this (or even find out if my neighbor will permit the adoption)
because she attempted to take her own life yesterday and is in ICU.
Ironically, I was very concerned about this very thing, so I went
early to a church meeting last night to see if anyone had information
about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By the time I drove home,
police cars and ambulances were parked in front of her house. So, I
have the information on what could be a very good adoption, but that
will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL

I'm sorry you're mixed up in this mess, but very glad for those little
dogs. You are the epitome of a good neighbor. Does your neighbor have
any relatives you could talk to?

Joy

Yes, she has a mother (85 years old and recently hospitalized herself)
and a brother and sister-in-law. However, I don't feel that we should
try to take any action at all until she is lucid and capable of
discussing this and of making decisions.

MaryL

Perhaps it would work best to suggest a "foster home" until she is able
to agree to adoption. Do you think the good couple would agree to act
in that capacity? What a mess. Sending you purrs and prayers for your
efforts. MLB

When the woman made a (legit or not) suicide attempt, she put herself
and
her household in the jurisdiction of law enforcement, who needs no
suggestions
from anyone (and they got the senile mother's number, BTW) as to those
dogs'
welfare. Around here, that is what local animal shelters do.


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Her mother is not senile. I'm sorry if I gave that impression. She is
elderly, overworked, in poor health, and desperate about her daughter's
condition. She has also let herself be badgered nearly to death over the
years by giving into her daughter's demands--but not senile.

MaryL

Purrs and prayers for you, the neighbor and the dogs. Having been mixed up
in this sort of thing with a neighbor, years ago, I know how messy this can
get. I think you are right about waiting to see if she can come home and is
capable of making the right decisions.
"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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"MaryL" -OUT-THE-LITTER wrote in message
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I have found a good home for the little dogs, where they would be pampered
and kept together. This person already has two elderly poodles, and they
are greatly loved. However, I cannot move forward on this (or even find
out if my neighbor will permit the adoption) because she attempted to take
her own life yesterday and is in ICU. Ironically, I was very concerned
about this very thing, so I went early to a church meeting last night to
see if anyone had information about local suicide or crisis hotlines. By
the time I drove home, police cars and ambulances were parked in front of
her house. So, I have the information on what could be a very good
adoption, but that will have to wait for awhile during this crisis.

MaryL