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Delicate question re kneading
"Christina Websell" wrote in
: "BfloPolska" wrote in message . .. On Jan 11, 12:28 pm, "Christina Websell" wrote: Boyfriend has always kneaded when he gets on my knee, it seems essential to him before he can settle down. But I like to think Boyfie loves his Mama, like Stosh loves me! Blessed be, Baha ------ Yes, he loves me, I love him but I'd prefer him not to, er, pleasure himself on my knee. So what to do? Knock him off when he does it, or what? Seems harsh as I spent years getting him brave enough to get on my knee at all. Tweed I'd let him continue, or try a little noise distraction. After all he seems to enjoy what he's doing. Life is too short and pleasures are hard to come by. If it harms no one, let it be... Bobble |
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It's not that much of a problem, Lee, that he needs to see a behaviourist, I
just wondered about how common it was. I think perhaps he loves me too much. I will not tell him off about it, but neither will I encourage him. I don't mind him kneading but when he goes a bit too far I will put him off my knee. "Stormmee" wrote in message ... his behavoir when added up seems to be security driven, since kfc has gone on he is demanding of you and displaying tom like actions, since he is snipped we know that isn't it, since you feed him well and vet him his general health isn't it so i am only left with he is insecure ... not sure what you can do about it, but i think if it were me i might have a consult with a behavoirist, Lee -- Have a wonderful day "Christina Websell" wrote in message ... Boyfriend has always kneaded when he gets on my knee, it seems essential to him before he can settle down. However, in the past few months his demeanour has changed whilst he's doing it. His ears went slightly back and a strange far-away look came into his eyes which were slightly slitted. I began to think it might be sexual. Now when he kneads he presses his nether regions down into my lap and by the motion of his hips...well, my question is - do cats masturbate? Tweed |
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Bobble wrote:
Yes, he loves me, I love him but I'd prefer him not to, er, pleasure himself on my knee. So what to do? Knock him off when he does it, or what? Seems harsh as I spent years getting him brave enough to get on my knee at all. Tweed I'd let him continue, or try a little noise distraction. After all he seems to enjoy what he's doing. Life is too short and pleasures are hard to come by. If it harms no one, let it be... I'd have to agree with this. As you said, he only does this while getting ready to settle down, so it's not like it goes on forever. And it would be a shame to destroy what you worked so hard to achieve in getting him to feel comfortable on your lap to begin with. However, if this really is dominance behavior and his personality and general attitude toward you start to change in other ways, then I'd be concerned and I might want to put a stop to any behaviors that reinforce his sense of dominance over you. Otherwise, as Bobble says, what's the harm? Joyce -- "No." -- Rosa Parks |
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Christina Websell wrote:
However, in the past few months his demeanour has changed whilst he's doing it. His ears went slightly back and a strange far-away look came into his eyes which were slightly slitted. I began to think it might be sexual. Now when he kneads he presses his nether regions down into my lap and by the motion of his hips...well, my question is - do cats masturbate? In a word...yes. Apparently. Fearless Fosdick (neutered boycat, 19 this coming April) has, for the past 16 years, done this to my DH's left armpit whenever DH lies down to sleep. It must be his LEFT armpit, and nowhere else, and only when DH is on his back. We have NO idea what that cat is thinking. Every night, nearly. He seems to enjoy himself, though, and it seems to do no harm to anyone or anything...except sometimes DH is a bit annoyed by the process. I don't think it's a dominance thing in this case, as Fearless is a very submissive cat with the other cats and has very rarely challenged anyone. Fearless just isn't a cat to challenge anyone's dominnance, especially the guy that brings the gooshy food. Funny story, back when DH and his Louie, a *large* but very sweet Maine Coon, first moved in....we introduced my cats one at a time to Louie, and most of them went all puffy and cranky on first sight of this large, calm, fluffy ginger thing. Fearless walked into the room, took one look at Louie, and promptly squashed himself flat into the floor making his body as small as possible, eyes squeezed tightly shut. You could nearly hear him thinking: "I don't know what you are or who you are but YOU WIN. OK?? OK?? YOU WIN." Later they got to be good friends and play buddies. Deborah slave to the Magnificent Seven -- "Of all the forms of inequality, injustice in health care is the most shocking and inhumane."-Martin Luther King, Jr. |
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wrote in message ... Bobble wrote: Yes, he loves me, I love him but I'd prefer him not to, er, pleasure himself on my knee. So what to do? Knock him off when he does it, or what? Seems harsh as I spent years getting him brave enough to get on my knee at all. Tweed I'd let him continue, or try a little noise distraction. After all he seems to enjoy what he's doing. Life is too short and pleasures are hard to come by. If it harms no one, let it be... I'd have to agree with this. As you said, he only does this while getting ready to settle down, so it's not like it goes on forever. And it would be a shame to destroy what you worked so hard to achieve in getting him to feel comfortable on your lap to begin with. However, if this really is dominance behavior and his personality and general attitude toward you start to change in other ways, then I'd be concerned and I might want to put a stop to any behaviors that reinforce his sense of dominance over you. Otherwise, as Bobble says, what's the harm? I tend to agree with Bobble & yourself. Boyfie is not a cat who is trying to be dominant over me, I think it's more of a comfort thing and if makes him happy (which it does) why not just let him do it? I'm not about to knock him off my lap after all this time trying to get him on there. Years, literally years before he dared to do that. Tweed |
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"Phoenix" wrote in message ... Christina Websell wrote: However, in the past few months his demeanour has changed whilst he's doing it. His ears went slightly back and a strange far-away look came into his eyes which were slightly slitted. I began to think it might be sexual. Now when he kneads he presses his nether regions down into my lap and by the motion of his hips...well, my question is - do cats masturbate? In a word...yes. Apparently. Fearless Fosdick (neutered boycat, 19 this coming April) has, for the past 16 years, done this to my DH's left armpit whenever DH lies down to sleep. It must be his LEFT armpit, and nowhere else, and only when DH is on his back. We have NO idea what that cat is thinking. Every night, nearly. He seems to enjoy himself, though, and it seems to do no harm to anyone or anything...except sometimes DH is a bit annoyed by the process. I don't think it's a dominance thing in this case, as Fearless is a very submissive cat with the other cats and has very rarely challenged anyone. Fearless just isn't a cat to challenge anyone's dominance, especially the guy that brings the gooshy food. Oh, good, I'm glad it isn't just Boyfie! Am I the first person to raise this issue? Probably. Blame my job, I have no shame about difficult subjects. Tweed |
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Phoenix wrote:
Funny story, back when DH and his Louie, a *large* but very sweet Maine Coon, first moved in....we introduced my cats one at a time to Louie, and most of them went all puffy and cranky on first sight of this large, calm, fluffy ginger thing. Fearless walked into the room, took one look at Louie, and promptly squashed himself flat into the floor making his body as small as possible, eyes squeezed tightly shut. You could nearly hear him thinking: "I don't know what you are or who you are but YOU WIN. OK?? OK?? YOU WIN." Is this how he got the name "Fearless"? Joyce -- After a cruel childhood, one must reinvent oneself. Then reimagine the world. -- Mary Oliver |
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Christina Websell wrote:
wrote in message ... Bobble wrote: Yes, he loves me, I love him but I'd prefer him not to, er, pleasure himself on my knee. So what to do? Knock him off when he does it, or what? Seems harsh as I spent years getting him brave enough to get on my knee at all. Tweed I'd let him continue, or try a little noise distraction. After all he seems to enjoy what he's doing. Life is too short and pleasures are hard to come by. If it harms no one, let it be... I'd have to agree with this. As you said, he only does this while getting ready to settle down, so it's not like it goes on forever. And it would be a shame to destroy what you worked so hard to achieve in getting him to feel comfortable on your lap to begin with. However, if this really is dominance behavior and his personality and general attitude toward you start to change in other ways, then I'd be concerned and I might want to put a stop to any behaviors that reinforce his sense of dominance over you. Otherwise, as Bobble says, what's the harm? I tend to agree with Bobble & yourself. Boyfie is not a cat who is trying to be dominant over me, I think it's more of a comfort thing and if makes him happy (which it does) why not just let him do it? I'm not about to knock him off my lap after all this time trying to get him on there. Years, literally years before he dared to do that. At least, given Boyfie's response to company coming over, you won't ever have to deal with the (potentially) embarrassing situation of him doing it in front of them. Joyce -- After a cruel childhood, one must reinvent oneself. Then reimagine the world. -- Mary Oliver |
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"Christina Websell" wrote: Now when he kneads he presses his nether regions down into my lap and by the motion of his hips...well, my question is - do cats masturbate? Worry about it when you find a wet spot. Also, talk to the vet. Could be something wrong with his urinary system or with his reproductive system. If he's still a complete tom, testicular cancer is a possibility even in cats (and if not, of course, not). Baird -- In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is. -Yogi Berra |
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