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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 23, 8:42�am, wrote:
I just lost my Cat, she was a siamese but looked more tonkanese to me, named Kiki. My mom bought her for me when I had just finished the first grade, so I was around 6 years old. I am now about to turn 28 and she has been with me the entire time, amazing when I reflect on it, she was around 21. She started showing some serious problems at the beginning of 2007, having her first seizure, she had 3 more up to her death, yesterday, January 22nd. When a cats health goes, it goes fast, I remember before that first seizure I thought she would be around until she was 30 years old. Her health got seriously bad in December, she started having labored breathing and barely ate and had lost a lot of weight. The vet said she may have cancer or heart failure and told me she probably only had a couple weeks to live, he also told me multiple tests were unneccessary on a cat of her age and would hurt more than help. She actually lived about 4 or 5 weeks since that visit to the vet. In the last two days she completely stopped eating and barely had enough power to walk, Monday night I decided I would put her down on Tuesday. Yesterday(Tuesday) upon waking I saw her and she now couldnt stand, she seemed at peace just laying, I talked to her, she basically went from walking normal and hopping on a recliner with me to unable to stand in a matter of a few days. I decided to take her in to the vet and as I was in the waiting room holding her in a towel I talked to her and she took a couple deep breathes then just stopped breathing, her eyes wide open, she died. I believe she was scared, she was always scared when I took her to the vet, I think its possible the stress finally was too much for her to take, I noticed she urinated in the towel. The vet came in checked her heart and told me she was dead, so I didnt have to euthanize her, I kind of wish I just sat with her at home until she died, but who knows if she would have died at the same time. Now I am extremely depressed, I did not think it would be this hard once she died, but it is pretty devastating. I do not feel like doing anything, I go to the gym almost everynight and last night I was supposed to but just dont feel like it, I dont know when I will feel like getting back to normalcy. I have the week off work for other reasons but I would have probably took today off if I was supposed to work. I looked through a bunch of pictures picking her's out last night, it was emotional for me. It's hard because I live by myself and the one thing I always had with me no matter what was her, when I look down and she's not there its hard. She is being cremated today and I still have to figure out what I am going to do with her ashes. I'm hoping expressing my feelings here will help me to get over this hump and move on, I dont really care if anyone reads it, no replies are neccessary. Im sure she wouldnt want me this sad but it's like losing one of your best friends you have known for 20+ years. I looked through her pictures and actually was able to crack a smile earlier, so I believe time is about the only thing to make myself feel better. For those who have lost a beloved pet I now know what it is like to feel your pain, it is no fun. Bye Kiki, or hopefully I will see you later. I know how you feel, Glov. I've had some real hard knocks with pets myself. But let's look at the reality of the situation... It's not like he was a person or anything. If you're this bummed out over an animal's demise, what are you going to do when real trouble strikes? For instance, when your spouse figures they've got what they want from your marriage and they leave you for a secret relationship they've been building with someone else behind your back? And they take your kids (what they wanted from the marriage) and bank account along with? And the judge lets it go down that way and you get to pay and pay and pay and pay, and all the while your kids call another person Daddy or Mommy? And for the rest of their lives, Glov. For the rest of their lives.... Or what happens to you when you get that knock on the door at 2:30 in the morning and it's a State Policeman there to tell you that your oldest child has just become a traffic fatality? He can just barely be viewed at his own funeral he is so smashed up. Talk about distraught... what happened when, at that funeral, your wife throws herself in anguish on the body and his whole side caves in? Right there in the casket, with all those people watching as she loses her mind screaming... later putting the blame on you for being too lenient with him and this ends up breaking up your marriage and ruining your family? And a few years later your ex-spouse kills themselves because they couldn't come to terms with it.. What if that befalls you? Or you learn that your youngest daughter has developed a debilitating, long-term mortal disease of which there's no treatment (much less a cure). And you get to watch her waste away in white-hot pain, day after day until she weights less than 65 pounds and dies of a heart attack, age 29? No answers to your prayers....No miracles from Heaven. No word from God. Not even a ray of hope.Or you lose your job of 15 years and the financial ramifications are so great that you break down with the manifestation of a full-fledged mental illness? No medication will help you. Hell on ****ing earth. What then? These are all true stories, Glov. I will not say any are mine, but I do know all of them to which they befell. I'm sorry, but from where I sit, you need to dry up. Tuck in that lip. Be aware that your cat gave you many long years of happiness on this earth, and he is now finally out of his suffering and is in a much, MUCH better place. Those are the things you should be arriving with conclusions about now. Not the other. I hope I have been able to help you to place things into their proper perspectives, Glov. I know things look grim sometimes, but it can always be worse. Much worse (as I have pointed out above). Just try to remember that tomorrow is a new day. Think those kinds of thoughts when you arise to greet it.... Think those thoughts.. Happy thoughts...! And life will look better soon. IBen Getiner |
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Depression from my cats death
On Thu, 24 Jan 2008 02:52:06 -0800 (PST), IBen Getiner
wrote: I know how you feel, Glov. .. IBen Getiner No actually, you don't. You don't have real feelings. You're a sociopath. For anyone who wonders how anyone can write what IBen does, please look at this: http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html |
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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 24, 9:57�am, dgk wrote:
On Thu, 24 Jan 2008 02:52:06 -0800 (PST), IBen Getiner wrote: I know how you feel, Glov. .. IBen Getiner No actually, you don't. You don't have real feelings. You're a sociopath. For anyone who wonders how anyone can write what IBen does, please look at this: http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html I'm very sorry, dk, but I care immensely for those who love me and for those who think like I do. And also for them who I can identify with..... like Glov here. I do not however, give a RAT'Z AZZ about those who HATE me. Especially them who hate me without a righteous reason. Or those who hate me because our political views don't line up (as in your case). So you see.... your lay-diagnosis of 'sociopath' couldn't be any further from the truth. Sorry, you anti-American communist..... you'll have to try again. IBen Getiner |
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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 24, 7:22�pm, "Matt" wrote:
"dgk" Do you really care what the Nazi sexual repressed POS has to say �kill file him and move on. Sometimes he is fun to mess with but in the long run �you have to ask your self �DO YOU REALLY CARE WHAT THAT FREAK HAS TO SAY. �I sure the hell don't and have the POS kill filed I don't care if you care what I say, Matty. That's not the point. And if you had half a brain, you'd have already figured that out. But you haven't because you don't.... IBen Getiner |
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IBen Getiner wrote:
I don't care if you care what I say, Matty. If you didn't care, you wouldn't write a post saying you don't care. You just wouldn't care. |
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Depression from my cats death
On Thu, 24 Jan 2008 19:22:09 -0500, "Matt"
wrote: "dgk" Do you really care what the Nazi sexual repressed POS has to say kill file him and move on. Sometimes he is fun to mess with but in the long run you have to ask your self DO YOU REALLY CARE WHAT THAT FREAK HAS TO SAY. I sure the hell don't and have the POS kill filed It's just so that other folks know what he is. He gets his thrills from hurting other people, so I just want to explain what he is about. |
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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 25, 2:46*am, Noon Cat Nick
wrote: IBen Getinerwrote: I don't care if you care what I say, Matty. If you didn't care, you wouldn't write a post saying you don't care. You just wouldn't care. No, Nicholas... you read but you do not comprehend. I said I don't care if HE doesn't care what I say. I do however care a great deal when it comes to letting him know that . Same thing with you. I hope I was able to clear that up for you. Quite nicely, I think... IBen |
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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 23, 6:42*am, wrote:
I just lost my Cat, she was a siamese but looked more tonkanese to me, named Kiki. My mom bought her for me when I had just finished the first grade, so I was around 6 years old. I am now about to turn 28 and she has been with me the entire time, amazing when I reflect on it, she was around 21. She started showing some serious problems at the beginning of 2007, having her first seizure, she had 3 more up to her death, yesterday, January 22nd. When a cats health goes, it goes fast, I remember before that first seizure I thought she would be around until she was 30 years old. Her health got seriously bad in December, she started having labored breathing and barely ate and had lost a lot of weight. The vet said she may have cancer or heart failure and told me she probably only had a couple weeks to live, he also told me multiple tests were unneccessary on a cat of her age and would hurt more than help. She actually lived about 4 or 5 weeks since that visit to the vet. In the last two days she completely stopped eating and barely had enough power to walk, Monday night I decided I would put her down on Tuesday. Yesterday(Tuesday) upon waking I saw her and she now couldnt stand, she seemed at peace just laying, I talked to her, she basically went from walking normal and hopping on a recliner with me to unable to stand in a matter of a few days. I decided to take her in to the vet and as I was in the waiting room holding her in a towel I talked to her and she took a couple deep breathes then just stopped breathing, her eyes wide open, she died. I believe she was scared, she was always scared when I took her to the vet, I think its possible the stress finally was too much for her to take, I noticed she urinated in the towel. The vet came in checked her heart and told me she was dead, so I didnt have to euthanize her, I kind of wish I just sat with her at home until she died, but who knows if she would have died at the same time. Now I am extremely depressed, I did not think it would be this hard once she died, but it is pretty devastating. I do not feel like doing anything, I go to the gym almost everynight and last night I was supposed to but just dont feel like it, I dont know when I will feel like getting back to normalcy. I have the week off work for other reasons but I would have probably took today off if I was supposed to work. I looked through a bunch of pictures picking her's out last night, it was emotional for me. It's hard because I live by myself and the one thing I always had with me no matter what was her, when I look down and she's not there its hard. She is being cremated today and I still have to figure out what I am going to do with her ashes. I'm hoping expressing my feelings here will help me to get over this hump and move on, I dont really care if anyone reads it, no replies are neccessary. Im sure she wouldnt want me this sad but it's like losing one of your best friends you have known for 20+ years. I looked through her pictures and actually was able to crack a smile earlier, so I believe time is about the only thing to make myself feel better. For those who have lost a beloved pet I now know what it is like to feel your pain, it is no fun. Bye Kiki, or hopefully I will see you later. I feel your loss...I lost my beautiful orange tabby "Jake" on Jan. 7th. All it takes is for me to start thinking about him and I start to cry. I miss him so much and my other kitties miss him too. It's been a hard few weeks for us but I think we're finally starting to adjust. I keep reaching for him in bed and he's not there to pet and love anymore and it breaks my heart. Anyway, enough of me. I just wanted you to know that I'm right there with you while we mourn our losses. Debbie |
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Depression from my cats death
On Jan 25, 11:48*am, "Matt" wrote:
"Noon Cat Nick" wrote in messagenews:Atgmj.638$9j6.335@attbi_s22... IBen Getinerwrote: I don't care if you care what I say, Matty. If you didn't care, you wouldn't write a post saying you don't care. You just wouldn't care. I see he responded thanks for snipping it. Thanks for the response...! He loves to try and get under your skin *but it drives him nuts knowing that you don't give two cents what he has to say LOL..!! But if that were true, you would see no reason to award me with your attention. Thanks again, Matty.. IBen Getiner |
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