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yet another foster kitty!
I'm fostering another kitty! This one's an adult, female, I'm not sure
how old, but she seems youngish, maybe a year or two. I won't have her for too long, though - I only took her for a few days so she wouldn't have to go back to boarding. The poor thing was in boarding for a week, and in a shelter before that, and then she was at the mobile adoption on Saturday, where I volunteered. So she's been in a cage for a long time. I took her this week so she'd be able to move around. She's still confined to one room (separated from my brood) but at least she can run around the room and sleep on something soft. She's a *very* affectionate cat. She's starved for attention and touch, I'm sure, and she's extremely cuddly and loves to be petted. The first night, she slept on top of me, purring. She's going to be someone's wonderful pet. A guy came to the mobile on Saturday who was very interested in adopting her, but couldn't take her until he moved into a new place, where they allow pets. So she's in limbo right now, waiting for her human to be able to take her. I don't have any photos of her - she's a black and white tuxedo with the most satiny, shiny, smooth fur I've ever petted. Oh, and I think I might have found a home for Lambchop!!! I put an ad on Petfinders and a guy in my area responded. He has AIDS and is alone and lonely a lot, and wants a pet. There's an organization in our area called PAWS (Pets Are Wonderful Support) that helps people with AIDS be able to keep their pets when they are too ill to care for them, and also helps them get free or inexpensive, donated veterinary care when they can't afford to pay for it. He has signed up for their services, so he'll be able to have a cat. I'm going to bring her by to meet him soon, so we'll see if it works out. I've already told him that she's a quirky, non-cuddly cat, and he's undeterred so far. One thing that concerns me is, what happens when he dies? I know people can live a long time with AIDS, but Lambchop's only one year old, so there's a good chance she'll outlive him. One thing I plan to say to him is that if he's unhappy with her for any reason, I will take her back. I don't want her to be brought to a shelter and euthanized because he doesn't like her. But I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of what his plans are for her, in case he dies before she does. He seems like a very nice, sincere guy, but I'm not sure if he's thought this whole thing through. It's kind of a delicate question to ask a perfect stranger, though! Any suggestions? Joyce |
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wrote in message ... I'm fostering another kitty! This one's an adult, female, I'm not sure how old, but she seems youngish, maybe a year or two. I won't have her for too long, though - I only took her for a few days so she wouldn't have to go back to boarding. The poor thing was in boarding for a week, and in a shelter before that, and then she was at the mobile adoption on Saturday, where I volunteered. So she's been in a cage for a long time. I took her this week so she'd be able to move around. She's still confined to one room (separated from my brood) but at least she can run around the room and sleep on something soft. She's a *very* affectionate cat. She's starved for attention and touch, I'm sure, and she's extremely cuddly and loves to be petted. The first night, she slept on top of me, purring. She's going to be someone's wonderful pet. A guy came to the mobile on Saturday who was very interested in adopting her, but couldn't take her until he moved into a new place, where they allow pets. So she's in limbo right now, waiting for her human to be able to take her. I don't have any photos of her - she's a black and white tuxedo with the most satiny, shiny, smooth fur I've ever petted. Oh, and I think I might have found a home for Lambchop!!! I put an ad on Petfinders and a guy in my area responded. He has AIDS and is alone and lonely a lot, and wants a pet. There's an organization in our area called PAWS (Pets Are Wonderful Support) that helps people with AIDS be able to keep their pets when they are too ill to care for them, and also helps them get free or inexpensive, donated veterinary care when they can't afford to pay for it. He has signed up for their services, so he'll be able to have a cat. I'm going to bring her by to meet him soon, so we'll see if it works out. I've already told him that she's a quirky, non-cuddly cat, and he's undeterred so far. One thing that concerns me is, what happens when he dies? I know people can live a long time with AIDS, but Lambchop's only one year old, so there's a good chance she'll outlive him. One thing I plan to say to him is that if he's unhappy with her for any reason, I will take her back. I don't want her to be brought to a shelter and euthanized because he doesn't like her. But I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of what his plans are for her, in case he dies before she does. He seems like a very nice, sincere guy, but I'm not sure if he's thought this whole thing through. It's kind of a delicate question to ask a perfect stranger, though! Any suggestions? Joyce I think telling him that you'll take her back "if he doesn't like her - or for any other reason" might be a fairly diplomatic way to put it. Brenda |
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Thanks everyone for the suggestions about what to do about the man
who wants to adopt Lambchop. I don't want to promise that my home will be open to her forever. Certainly over the next few months, if he decides it's not working, I would take her back. But what if, 3 years from now, he got very sick or died - I don't want to be tied to a promise to take her back. What if I'm living somewhere with a strict pet policy? Or say I'm living with someone and we have 3 more cats? What if *I'm* sick? Obviously, if it works for me to take her back, I will, but I can't be sure it will be possible. I think it would make more sense for him to have an arrangement that's more stable, say with an organization. I think calling PAWS and finding out what they do in those cases is a great idea. Joyce |
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I would think that finding another home for a pet in the event of his death would be
something he would deal with himself. And I'm sure PAWS would help with such arrangements. -- Jo Firey "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." wrote in message ... I'm fostering another kitty! This one's an adult, female, I'm not sure how old, but she seems youngish, maybe a year or two. I won't have her for too long, though - I only took her for a few days so she wouldn't have to go back to boarding. The poor thing was in boarding for a week, and in a shelter before that, and then she was at the mobile adoption on Saturday, where I volunteered. So she's been in a cage for a long time. I took her this week so she'd be able to move around. She's still confined to one room (separated from my brood) but at least she can run around the room and sleep on something soft. She's a *very* affectionate cat. She's starved for attention and touch, I'm sure, and she's extremely cuddly and loves to be petted. The first night, she slept on top of me, purring. She's going to be someone's wonderful pet. A guy came to the mobile on Saturday who was very interested in adopting her, but couldn't take her until he moved into a new place, where they allow pets. So she's in limbo right now, waiting for her human to be able to take her. I don't have any photos of her - she's a black and white tuxedo with the most satiny, shiny, smooth fur I've ever petted. Oh, and I think I might have found a home for Lambchop!!! I put an ad on Petfinders and a guy in my area responded. He has AIDS and is alone and lonely a lot, and wants a pet. There's an organization in our area called PAWS (Pets Are Wonderful Support) that helps people with AIDS be able to keep their pets when they are too ill to care for them, and also helps them get free or inexpensive, donated veterinary care when they can't afford to pay for it. He has signed up for their services, so he'll be able to have a cat. I'm going to bring her by to meet him soon, so we'll see if it works out. I've already told him that she's a quirky, non-cuddly cat, and he's undeterred so far. One thing that concerns me is, what happens when he dies? I know people can live a long time with AIDS, but Lambchop's only one year old, so there's a good chance she'll outlive him. One thing I plan to say to him is that if he's unhappy with her for any reason, I will take her back. I don't want her to be brought to a shelter and euthanized because he doesn't like her. But I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of what his plans are for her, in case he dies before she does. He seems like a very nice, sincere guy, but I'm not sure if he's thought this whole thing through. It's kind of a delicate question to ask a perfect stranger, though! Any suggestions? Joyce |
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I wrote:
I think calling PAWS and finding out what they do in those cases is a great idea. Well, I looked at the PAWS website, and it turns out that they only serve people in San Francisco proper. This guy lives in Oakland, which is close to San Francisco, but apparently outside of PAWS's service area. So I called him to ask him to explain exactly what PAWS did for him. I got a little suspicious, thinking that he was lying to me. But he wasn't, they did recommend some low-cost vets he could go to. But they didn't give him any other services, and they won't be, because he doesn't live in SF. So now the question is, what will happen to Lambchop if he becomes too sick to take care of her? I don't think there is an organization over here to step in and help in his case. As he said to me, "if they have $100 in San Francisco for AIDS services, they have ten cents in Oakland." San Francisco has a huge gay community and they are very well organized and funded for AIDS services. Oakland is largely black and much poorer. Also, AIDS has been a problem in the gay community for much longer, so they've had much more time to set things up. These days, the black community is in much greater danger from AIDS, but they don't have as much infrastructure in place to deal with it. They also don't have the financial or political resources to get all the services they need. (Too bad we can't depend on our *government* to provide these services equally to everyone who needs them - what a novel idea!) I would really like for this guy to adopt Lambchop - he wants a cat, she needs a home, and Roxy and Smudge need this apartment to be a "Lambchop-free space". fret, fret, fret What to do?? Joyce |
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"Jo Firey" wrote in message
... I would think that finding another home for a pet in the event of his death would be something he would deal with himself. And I'm sure PAWS would help with such arrangements. Or certainly some organization or friend would. I agree; as unpleasant as I'm sure it is, he has probably thought about things like that and will most likely look into arrangements for the cat if his health starts to decline. I imagine a lot of people in his situation have pets, and make sure they make arrangements for them. But I most certainly understand your concern, it's really very sweet of you to care so much about both the cat and his feelings. It sounds like they'll be good for each other, though, so I wouldn't worry too much. Ann -- http://www.angelfire.com/ca/bewtifulfreak |
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wrote in message ... Oh, and I think I might have found a home for Lambchop!!! I put an ad on Petfinders and a guy in my area responded. He has AIDS and is alone and lonely a lot, and wants a pet. One thing that concerns me is, what happens when he dies? I know people can live a long time with AIDS, but Lambchop's only one year old, so there's a good chance she'll outlive him. One thing I plan to say to him is that if he's unhappy with her for any reason, I will take her back. I don't want her to be brought to a shelter and euthanized because he doesn't like her. But I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of what his plans are for her, in case he dies before she does. He seems like a very nice, sincere guy, but I'm not sure if he's thought this whole thing through. It's kind of a delicate question to ask a perfect stranger, though! Any suggestions? Joyce I think it would be perfectly appropriate to ask him to include provisions for the care of his new cat if anything were to happen to him. I have made provisions for my cats even though I am healthy because none of us can be sure of how long we will live. I felt as if a huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders when I knew that my cats would be cared for if something happned to me. In my case, my sister and I have each agreed to insure that the other's cats will have a good home. The man you are talking about may already have given a lot of thought to this situation. He may have friends or relatives who would be willing to enter into such an agreement. His own health is particularly vulnerable, so this idea will not come as a surprise to him. MaryL |
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The best way to deal (IMO) is to come right out and ask. Everyone dies
sooner or later -- he knows it - you know it) Don't pussyfoot around the issue. Leave him your name and phone number and tell him to call you anytime he feels he can no longer care for the cat. Honesty is the best policy. MLB LOL wrote: wrote in message ... I'm fostering another kitty! This one's an adult, female, I'm not sure how old, but she seems youngish, maybe a year or two. I won't have her for too long, though - I only took her for a few days so she wouldn't have to go back to boarding. The poor thing was in boarding for a week, and in a shelter before that, and then she was at the mobile adoption on Saturday, where I volunteered. So she's been in a cage for a long time. I took her this week so she'd be able to move around. She's still confined to one room (separated from my brood) but at least she can run around the room and sleep on something soft. She's a *very* affectionate cat. She's starved for attention and touch, I'm sure, and she's extremely cuddly and loves to be petted. The first night, she slept on top of me, purring. She's going to be someone's wonderful pet. A guy came to the mobile on Saturday who was very interested in adopting her, but couldn't take her until he moved into a new place, where they allow pets. So she's in limbo right now, waiting for her human to be able to take her. I don't have any photos of her - she's a black and white tuxedo with the most satiny, shiny, smooth fur I've ever petted. Oh, and I think I might have found a home for Lambchop!!! I put an ad on Petfinders and a guy in my area responded. He has AIDS and is alone and lonely a lot, and wants a pet. There's an organization in our area called PAWS (Pets Are Wonderful Support) that helps people with AIDS be able to keep their pets when they are too ill to care for them, and also helps them get free or inexpensive, donated veterinary care when they can't afford to pay for it. He has signed up for their services, so he'll be able to have a cat. I'm going to bring her by to meet him soon, so we'll see if it works out. I've already told him that she's a quirky, non-cuddly cat, and he's undeterred so far. One thing that concerns me is, what happens when he dies? I know people can live a long time with AIDS, but Lambchop's only one year old, so there's a good chance she'll outlive him. One thing I plan to say to him is that if he's unhappy with her for any reason, I will take her back. I don't want her to be brought to a shelter and euthanized because he doesn't like her. But I'm not sure how to bring up the subject of what his plans are for her, in case he dies before she does. He seems like a very nice, sincere guy, but I'm not sure if he's thought this whole thing through. It's kind of a delicate question to ask a perfect stranger, though! Any suggestions? Joyce Purrs to you and your new foster; I hope everything works out well. Do you have any idea whether the PAWS organization makes arrangements for the pets after the human's death? I would imagine they have had to deal with this situation quite a bit; maybe arrangements can be made through the organization? Or you could ask the young man whether he is making provision for Lambchop in a will, or something along those lines? Or even offer taking her back as an alternative/supplement to PAWS if he became unable to live at home? I wouldn't feel it was too awfully intrusive to ask, under the circumstances, but do not envy your having to ask it. We will be purring for you in dealing with this situation. ----- Krista |
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