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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi -this morning I had
to pop over to the shop before I went to work and when I came back she got past me into the hallway so I went and put the shopping down and when I went back to the front door was sitting on the doormat staring hopefully up the stairs where Dunzi used to run. I reckon she thinks this is an extended version of the "Dirty Little Stop Out" game. I had to pick her up to bring her in Dave says she's taken to following him everywhere , she'll be asleep on the arm of the sofa next to him and he'll get up to use the toilet and she wakes up and goes with him. She's being "Good" with me okay I do not wish to imply in any way that she isn't always a saintly and well behaved kitten but I'd be lying- she's tiptoing round me almost like she's worried I could make her vanish as well... I've tried throwing her toys- she loves to play usually but she bats it once or twice for show and then walks off The only good thing is she's still eating but even then when I put her food down she waits and looks round to see if Dunzi is going to appear How can I explain it to her? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
Lesley Madigan wrote
6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi snip How can I explain it to her? Don't even try. Just get her a small kitten, ASAP. |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
On Jul 5, 9:48*am, "Pat" wrote:
Lesley Madigan wrote 6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi snip How can I explain it to her? Don't even try. Just get her a small kitten, ASAP. I think that;s what she is really missing not Dunzi per se (after all Dunzi did her level best sometimes to make Sarsi's life miserable) but feline company. The trouble is Dave doesn't feel ready yet and I am not sure I do and maybe I am misreading the situation and a new arrival would upset her even more. I think we are leaning towards another owner but it won't happen just yet. Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
On Jul 5, 6:55*pm, Lesley Madigan wrote:
On Jul 5, 9:48*am, "Pat" wrote: Lesley Madigan wrote 6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi snip How can I explain it to her? Don't even try. Just get her a small kitten, ASAP. I think that;s what she is really missing not Dunzi per se (after all Dunzi did her level best sometimes to make Sarsi's life miserable) but feline company. *The trouble is Dave doesn't feel ready yet and I am not sure I do and maybe I am misreading the situation and a new arrival would upset her even more. *I think we are leaning towards another owner but it won't happen just yet. Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball It took our cats a long time, far longer than I expected, to "get over" our dog's passing to RB last year. Several weeks. I'd suggest giving her time and allowing her to adjust to the new dynamic in the household at her own pace. It is a HUGE change for her - she's only ever known life with Dunzi. Please don't get her a kitten; I think it would de-stabilize her more. Hugs to all three of you. Tish |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
It took Tripper about a month to stop looking for his brother. I didn't
start looking for a new companion for him until he stopped. I figured it was less likely to be viewed as a territory intrusion, and would give him more time to adjust. Since cats love routine, and Sarsi is used to the presence of another cat, it's not surprising that she's shifted to following you or Dave around. You can't really explain it to her....though if you do find a way, let the rest of us know. I'd love to have that ability! Just keep doing what you're doing....giving her stability. Cats love routines, and hers have been upset. The more things you can keep the same, the faster she'll be able to adjust. Of course, with anything cat related, your mileage may vary. Give her plenty of attention, as I'm sure you are, and once she settles down a bit more, perhaps you and Dave will be ready to consider another owner. Purrs- Chris and the Fairfax Fur Factory On 07/05/2011 04:46 AM, Lesley Madigan wrote: 6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi -this morning I had to pop over to the shop before I went to work and when I came back she got past me into the hallway so I went and put the shopping down and when I went back to the front door was sitting on the doormat staring hopefully up the stairs where Dunzi used to run. I reckon she thinks this is an extended version of the "Dirty Little Stop Out" game. I had to pick her up to bring her in Dave says she's taken to following him everywhere , she'll be asleep on the arm of the sofa next to him and he'll get up to use the toilet and she wakes up and goes with him. She's being "Good" with me okay I do not wish to imply in any way that she isn't always a saintly and well behaved kitten but I'd be lying- she's tiptoing round me almost like she's worried I could make her vanish as well... I've tried throwing her toys- she loves to play usually but she bats it once or twice for show and then walks off The only good thing is she's still eating but even then when I put her food down she waits and looks round to see if Dunzi is going to appear How can I explain it to her? Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
On 5.7.2011 11:46, Lesley Madigan wrote:
6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi That is so hard. Nikki died late in May 2005, and when I took Frank to the island at the beginning of July, he carefully made the rounds of her favourite places there, then he pretty much spent the rest of the summer on my bed. Even though she'd known him less than a year, Miranda kept looking for Frank after he passed. She called for him for about a week, then she settled down. Sarsi lived with Dunzi all her life, so I can imagine it will take longer for her. My sister is dealing with the same thing. Linus died earlier this year, and his sisfur Ronja is still looking for him. If she hears a noise from another room, she perks up, then rushes in to see if he's there. It's heartbreaking, but there's not much you can do. My sister is going to adopt a new kitten in the autumn. It's always hard to predict how it will pan out. On the one hand, it's usually easier for an adult to accept a new kitten than another adult, but on the other, a kitten may be too rambunctious for an older cat (Ronja is about the same age as Sarsi). We can only wait and see and hope for the best. -- Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
Thanks for the advice- nope we are not rushing out to get another
kitten apart from anything else we're still too upset ourselves and it would feel like we were just replacing Dunzi as if she were the washing machine or something. We're watching the situation if Sarsi really does not improve (and I am sure she will to some degree as long as we keep to her routine and make a fuss of her) then another cat is not out of the question. Sarsi may be 8 but she still plays like a kitten so a younger cat might be a better idea and if Bast feels we need a cat then one will turn up (They always do I think there's an agency on the Mother Ship that sends them) Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
"Spock-n-Persephone" wrote in message ... On Jul 5, 6:55 pm, Lesley Madigan wrote: On Jul 5, 9:48 am, "Pat" wrote: Lesley Madigan wrote 6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi snip How can I explain it to her? Don't even try. Just get her a small kitten, ASAP. I think that;s what she is really missing not Dunzi per se (after all Dunzi did her level best sometimes to make Sarsi's life miserable) but feline company. The trouble is Dave doesn't feel ready yet and I am not sure I do and maybe I am misreading the situation and a new arrival would upset her even more. I think we are leaning towards another owner but it won't happen just yet. Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furball It took our cats a long time, far longer than I expected, to "get over" our dog's passing to RB last year. Several weeks. I'd suggest giving her time and allowing her to adjust to the new dynamic in the household at her own pace. It is a HUGE change for her - she's only ever known life with Dunzi. Please don't get her a kitten; I think it would de-stabilize her more. Hugs to all three of you. Tish I agree with Tish. Rushing out and getting a new kitten, even if you and Dave were ready for one, isn't the answer. Give Sarsi time to adjust to the change. Then perhaps (as Chris suggested) adopt an older cat when you feel ready. Meanwhile, give Sarsi lots of love and attention (I know you already are!) Jill |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
.. *Rushing out and getting a new kitten, even if you and
Dave were ready for one, We're not .. *Then perhaps (as Chris suggested) adopt an older cat when you feel ready. probably a young cat maybe not a kitten- Sarsi still loves to play but a boisterous kitten might be a bit much *Meanwhile, give Sarsi lots of love and attention (I know you already are!) She's getting spoiled rotten Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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How do I cope with a depressed cat?
Pat wrote: Lesley Madigan wrote 6 days later and Sarsi is still looking for Dunzi snip How can I explain it to her? Don't even try. Just get her a small kitten, ASAP. That would be my advice, too. When the young man across the hall abandoned both his cat and his apartment, I took it "temporarily", just until we could find a home for it. I hadn't realized how visibly Melisande had been grieving the loss of Patches (PTS because of metastasizing skin cancer) until Cendrillon joined us. They so promptly bonded, there was no question of "finding a home" (especially after I unexpectedly had to pay for a spay when the abandoned cat came in heat, despite having been declawed by her former owner). |
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