Purrs? PLEASE!

Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia and over the last year or two we've had to the occasional
call from his mum about "one of his turns" (Dave doesn't know half of
it his mum insists I can't tell him - his dad will just go and on a
few occasions she's had to hide in the bathroom because she's
terrified and he's kicked in doors he's a sweet gentle guy who never
did no-one harm it's so cruel he's got this he isn't even 70 and its
put paid to the long happy retirement they planned) then she called
Boxing Day because he had a turn then yesterday he thought his other
son and kids were there (Dave's mum said they were going to Sonia's
dad- Sonia is my sort of SIL- Dave's mum regards me as a daughter even
through we are not married- for this Xmas since Sonia's mum died this
year but I do wonder whether she put them off) then she calls me
today almost in tears he's had two " really bad turns" today. Her
health isn't that good and she's coping on her own with no support-
apparently the nurses come every couple of months and he's always okay
when they come and also I strongly suspect she's been covering up but
now she's at her wits end.

He drove off after one of the "turns" and came back 10 minutes later,
fine again. I am not sure he should be driving but Dave's mum insists
he has been passed as fit to drive from a couple of things she has
let slip I have a sneaking feeling he did lose his license for a while
and drove when he shouldn't have. Dave's mum can't drive and they live
on the outskirts of town so she needs him to be able to drive so I
don't know to what extent she's trying to ignore that, she has
crippling meniere's disease and can't go out on her own.

Worse still, her other son Adam, she tells me is "in denial" about
this. Dave now feels he ought to email Adam ( we don't have a phone
number- long story basically Dave ran away from home when he was 16
and didn't get back in contact with his parents for a long time so
contacts with Adam tend to be Xmas cards and that's about it) but he
doesn't know what Adam knows so it's really hard to phrase a nice
email along the lines iof "Dad's losing the plot- we need to talk"

All I can really do is tell her she needs to talk to his specialist
and be more honest about what's going down and to ask for some more
help and support. Also my friend Alan, is something in mental health
care for the elderly so I should see him Wednesday and I can ask him
what he suggests

Of course it doesn't greatly help she firmly believes in "richer and
poorer in sickness and in health" etc and although she doesn't say it
out loud I think she's worried he may need to go in a home

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

"Lesley" wrote in message
...
Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the
next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has
vascular
dementia ...


So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry
managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?


As your purrsonal credit rating is so good, I'm willing to extend
your facility. Purrs on their way to your account.

--
MatSav

"Lesley" wrote in message
...
Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia and over the last year or two we've had to the occasional
call from his mum about "one of his turns" (Dave doesn't know half of
it his mum insists I can't tell him - his dad will just go and on a
few occasions she's had to hide in the bathroom because she's
terrified and he's kicked in doors he's a sweet gentle guy who never
did no-one harm it's so cruel he's got this he isn't even 70 and its
put paid to the long happy retirement they planned) then she called
Boxing Day because he had a turn then yesterday he thought his other
son and kids were there (Dave's mum said they were going to Sonia's
dad- Sonia is my sort of SIL- Dave's mum regards me as a daughter even
through we are not married- for this Xmas since Sonia's mum died this
year but I do wonder whether she put them off) then she calls me
today almost in tears he's had two " really bad turns" today. Her
health isn't that good and she's coping on her own with no support-
apparently the nurses come every couple of months and he's always okay
when they come and also I strongly suspect she's been covering up but
now she's at her wits end.

He drove off after one of the "turns" and came back 10 minutes later,
fine again. I am not sure he should be driving but Dave's mum insists
he has been passed as fit to drive from a couple of things she has
let slip I have a sneaking feeling he did lose his license for a while
and drove when he shouldn't have. Dave's mum can't drive and they live
on the outskirts of town so she needs him to be able to drive so I
don't know to what extent she's trying to ignore that, she has
crippling meniere's disease and can't go out on her own.

Worse still, her other son Adam, she tells me is "in denial" about
this. Dave now feels he ought to email Adam ( we don't have a phone
number- long story basically Dave ran away from home when he was 16
and didn't get back in contact with his parents for a long time so
contacts with Adam tend to be Xmas cards and that's about it) but he
doesn't know what Adam knows so it's really hard to phrase a nice
email along the lines iof "Dad's losing the plot- we need to talk"

All I can really do is tell her she needs to talk to his specialist
and be more honest about what's going down and to ask for some more
help and support. Also my friend Alan, is something in mental health
care for the elderly so I should see him Wednesday and I can ask him
what he suggests

Of course it doesn't greatly help she firmly believes in "richer and
poorer in sickness and in health" etc and although she doesn't say it
out loud I think she's worried he may need to go in a home

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Lesley



Oh sweet Jebus, you should be entitled to a little overdraft. What a mess
of circumstances. We are sending you and family the special calming
trans-Atlantic variety.

Lesley wrote:
So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Purrs have a way of always being available in large supplies.

--
Victor M. Martinez
Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM)
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No such thing as overdrawn on purrs, they are like hugs, they just keep
multiplying, give one away and there is always another. This getting old
crap is not fun for anyone, the person or the one caring for them,
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"Lesley" wrote in message
...
Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia ...


So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?


As your purrsonal credit rating is so good, I'm willing to extend your
facility. Purrs on their way to your account.

--
MatSav

Purrs on the way.

(((((((((Lesley))))))))

Joy

"Lesley" wrote in message
...
Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia and over the last year or two we've had to the occasional
call from his mum about "one of his turns" (Dave doesn't know half of
it his mum insists I can't tell him - his dad will just go and on a
few occasions she's had to hide in the bathroom because she's
terrified and he's kicked in doors he's a sweet gentle guy who never
did no-one harm it's so cruel he's got this he isn't even 70 and its
put paid to the long happy retirement they planned) then she called
Boxing Day because he had a turn then yesterday he thought his other
son and kids were there (Dave's mum said they were going to Sonia's
dad- Sonia is my sort of SIL- Dave's mum regards me as a daughter even
through we are not married- for this Xmas since Sonia's mum died this
year but I do wonder whether she put them off) then she calls me
today almost in tears he's had two " really bad turns" today. Her
health isn't that good and she's coping on her own with no support-
apparently the nurses come every couple of months and he's always okay
when they come and also I strongly suspect she's been covering up but
now she's at her wits end.

He drove off after one of the "turns" and came back 10 minutes later,
fine again. I am not sure he should be driving but Dave's mum insists
he has been passed as fit to drive from a couple of things she has
let slip I have a sneaking feeling he did lose his license for a while
and drove when he shouldn't have. Dave's mum can't drive and they live
on the outskirts of town so she needs him to be able to drive so I
don't know to what extent she's trying to ignore that, she has
crippling meniere's disease and can't go out on her own.

Worse still, her other son Adam, she tells me is "in denial" about
this. Dave now feels he ought to email Adam ( we don't have a phone
number- long story basically Dave ran away from home when he was 16
and didn't get back in contact with his parents for a long time so
contacts with Adam tend to be Xmas cards and that's about it) but he
doesn't know what Adam knows so it's really hard to phrase a nice
email along the lines iof "Dad's losing the plot- we need to talk"

All I can really do is tell her she needs to talk to his specialist
and be more honest about what's going down and to ask for some more
help and support. Also my friend Alan, is something in mental health
care for the elderly so I should see him Wednesday and I can ask him
what he suggests

Of course it doesn't greatly help she firmly believes in "richer and
poorer in sickness and in health" etc and although she doesn't say it
out loud I think she's worried he may need to go in a home

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Lesley

The furry bank managers at the Miles house state that there is no such
thing as a purr loan or purr overdraft facility, so you're out of luck
there. ;o) What the feline purr managers have stated is that purrs are
in fact a free banking service (unlike Barclays and Citibank - Miss
Lily Whiskers told me to add that) and because purrs are free you can
have as many as you like, as often as you want. Because this is a
special situation, Miss Lily Whiskers has also thrown in some chirrups
for good measure.

Purrs en-route

Helen M

Lesley wrote:
Here we are sitting around waiting for our takeaway when the next
bombshell lands on us!

I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia and over the last year or two we've had to the occasional
call from his mum about "one of his turns" (Dave doesn't know half of
it his mum insists I can't tell him - his dad will just go and on a
few occasions she's had to hide in the bathroom because she's
terrified and he's kicked in doors he's a sweet gentle guy who never
did no-one harm it's so cruel he's got this he isn't even 70 and its
put paid to the long happy retirement they planned) then she called
Boxing Day because he had a turn then yesterday he thought his other
son and kids were there (Dave's mum said they were going to Sonia's
dad- Sonia is my sort of SIL- Dave's mum regards me as a daughter even
through we are not married- for this Xmas since Sonia's mum died this
year but I do wonder whether she put them off) then she calls me
today almost in tears he's had two " really bad turns" today. Her
health isn't that good and she's coping on her own with no support-
apparently the nurses come every couple of months and he's always okay
when they come and also I strongly suspect she's been covering up but
now she's at her wits end.

He drove off after one of the "turns" and came back 10 minutes later,
fine again. I am not sure he should be driving but Dave's mum insists
he has been passed as fit to drive from a couple of things she has
let slip I have a sneaking feeling he did lose his license for a while
and drove when he shouldn't have. Dave's mum can't drive and they live
on the outskirts of town so she needs him to be able to drive so I
don't know to what extent she's trying to ignore that, she has
crippling meniere's disease and can't go out on her own.

Worse still, her other son Adam, she tells me is "in denial" about
this. Dave now feels he ought to email Adam ( we don't have a phone
number- long story basically Dave ran away from home when he was 16
and didn't get back in contact with his parents for a long time so
contacts with Adam tend to be Xmas cards and that's about it) but he
doesn't know what Adam knows so it's really hard to phrase a nice
email along the lines iof "Dad's losing the plot- we need to talk"

All I can really do is tell her she needs to talk to his specialist
and be more honest about what's going down and to ask for some more
help and support. Also my friend Alan, is something in mental health
care for the elderly so I should see him Wednesday and I can ask him
what he suggests

Of course it doesn't greatly help she firmly believes in "richer and
poorer in sickness and in health" etc and although she doesn't say it
out loud I think she's worried he may need to go in a home

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

Of course, Lesley. Purrs on the way for a good resolution.

Sam, supervised by Mistletoe

Lesley wrote:

So I may be overdrawn at the purr bank but would the furry managers
see fit to extending my purr overdraft?

There are always purrs in abundance to give out. The cats here are
sending their best.

--
Marina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki.

Lesley wrote in news:eac3c24f-b53f-4f4b-bac9-
:


I don't know if I mentioned it before but Dave's dad has vascular
dementia and over the last year or two we've had to the occasional
call from his mum about "one of his turns" (Dave doesn't know half of
it his mum insists I can't tell him - his dad will just go and on a
few occasions she's had to hide in the bathroom because she's
terrified and he's kicked in doors he's a sweet gentle guy who never
did no-one harm it's so cruel he's got this he isn't even 70 and its
..
..
..

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs



I have some experience with much you describe here. I will send my good
thoughts and see if the new guys will send some purrs of their own.

Andy