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My cat ownership experience - what a drama
This is the first time I "owned" a cat. She was an abandoned stray who kept
hanging out in my backyard for over a month before I started giving it water and food. It stayed with me since then for 8 months. I looked after her excellently - giving her good food, good bedding, medical attention, groomed her, flea treatment, collar, tags, bells, etc. The I went away for 3 weeks, paying a petsitter to feed and care for her. While I was away, she too decided to go away. Petsitter said she always ate her food but was no where in sight. No biggie because she's a very shy cat. When I came back, she was no where in sight - I was devastated! - she finally came home but only at midnight to eat her food and leave again. yesterday, I found out where she went to. She went straight for the house across the street. I also saw people around, kids, etc and she was right at home there - not shy or timid. And the kids even shouted out loud - the cats back, the cats back. I have a few questions. 1. For the past month since I returned, if she had been back in her own plce, how come the original owners didn't call me (from her tag) to claim her. Why did they just let the cat be fed or cared for by someone else. 2. The cats always at her own home now so why do they still let her wonder off on her own coming to my place and eating like there's no tomorrow. 3. I can't take care and claim ownership of the cat when it obviously doesn't want to stay with me anymore and has returned to her own home. Tonight when the cat comes in to eat (at midnight) I will remove her collar and tag and stop feeding her. that is the only way to discourage her from returning here. I have spent a lot of money, time and emotions on the cat. I am not claiming for anything from the previous owners. It is hard for me to stop feeding/caring for the cat but I have to because it is rightfully not mine even though I have it collared and tagged it as mine. I just hope that the owners will now recognise that the cat is back with them like it or not and they have to start being responsible owners. It would be funny if they turned around and claim that I am now chucking my responsibility on to them. In view of all this, I am tired and honestly have turned off any pet care in the near future. |
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"Kuisse0002" wrote in message ... This is the first time I "owned" a cat. She was an abandoned stray who kept hanging out in my backyard for over a month before I started giving it water and food. It stayed with me since then for 8 months. I looked after her excellently - giving her good food, good bedding, medical attention, groomed her, flea treatment, collar, tags, bells, etc. The I went away for 3 weeks, paying a petsitter to feed and care for her. While I was away, she too decided to go away. Petsitter said she always ate her food but was no where in sight. No biggie because she's a very shy cat. When I came back, she was no where in sight - I was devastated! - she finally came home but only at midnight to eat her food and leave again. yesterday, I found out where she went to. She went straight for the house across the street. I also saw people around, kids, etc and she was right at home there - not shy or timid. And the kids even shouted out loud - the cats back, the cats back. I have a few questions. I have spent a lot of money, time and emotions on the cat. I am not claiming for anything from the previous owners. It is hard for me to stop feeding/caring for the cat but I have to because it is rightfully not mine even though I have it collared and tagged it as mine. I just hope that the owners will now recognise that the cat is back with them like it or not and they have to start being responsible owners. Why don't you talk to the people across the street and make sure that it was actually "their" cat first? See if they really want it and are feeding it properly. It's possible that the kids are playing with it but that it's not getting good food and medical treatment. Be diplomatic about it. You might be able to work out something where you can "re-adopt" the cat, and this time convert it into an indoor-only pet. It sounds like she would benefit greatly from your care. She would be safer as an indoor cat, and you would avoid this type of situation. MaryL |
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"Kuisse0002" wrote in message ... This is the first time I "owned" a cat. She was an abandoned stray who kept hanging out in my backyard for over a month before I started giving it water and food. It stayed with me since then for 8 months. I looked after her excellently - giving her good food, good bedding, medical attention, groomed her, flea treatment, collar, tags, bells, etc. The I went away for 3 weeks, paying a petsitter to feed and care for her. While I was away, she too decided to go away. Petsitter said she always ate her food but was no where in sight. No biggie because she's a very shy cat. When I came back, she was no where in sight - I was devastated! - she finally came home but only at midnight to eat her food and leave again. yesterday, I found out where she went to. She went straight for the house across the street. I also saw people around, kids, etc and she was right at home there - not shy or timid. And the kids even shouted out loud - the cats back, the cats back. I have a few questions. I have spent a lot of money, time and emotions on the cat. I am not claiming for anything from the previous owners. It is hard for me to stop feeding/caring for the cat but I have to because it is rightfully not mine even though I have it collared and tagged it as mine. I just hope that the owners will now recognise that the cat is back with them like it or not and they have to start being responsible owners. Why don't you talk to the people across the street and make sure that it was actually "their" cat first? See if they really want it and are feeding it properly. It's possible that the kids are playing with it but that it's not getting good food and medical treatment. Be diplomatic about it. You might be able to work out something where you can "re-adopt" the cat, and this time convert it into an indoor-only pet. It sounds like she would benefit greatly from your care. She would be safer as an indoor cat, and you would avoid this type of situation. MaryL |
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"-L." wrote in message m... Why stop? There is no reason for me to believe this cat belongs to the neighbors. Did you ask them if they oficially claim this cat? I will bet the answer of the parents will be "NO!". Agree to what L said. There is a tom cat about 3 years old that was left behind by a family that moved out in the next block over from me. When I first moved here, he would come to visit, often spending the whole day on my front porch enjoying the feedings and the attention he got. As it turns this guy is being quite regularly cared for by the couple across the street. He spends several days at a time inside with them but does have his preference for making the rounds of all his friends in the area. He comes to greet me every Friday when I come in off the road. Usually while still unloading my truck gear from the van, he can be heard approaching with a steady stream of meows and yowls. He follows me up on the porch and waits for me to divvy up the leftover deli roast beef that he knows I carry with me just for 'him'. After eating he will hang out on the porch for quite a while as he knows that I'll be back to spend some time with him after stowing my gear. There have been times I've spotted this cat on a porch the next street over from where I live, apparently enjoying some of the same hospitality he finds at my house. A few times he's even spotted me while at some distance several blocks from home and come running to my van, bawling away like he does when he comes from across the street. He will hop in the van without hesitation and ride with me on whatever errands I'm out for curled up on the seat behind me. When we arrive back home, he exits and heads across the street for home. I would never have presumed myself to be his 'owner' without observing a bit of where he goes. That is how I happened to ask the folks across the street about him and got the background info on how they happened to become his owners. |
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"-L." wrote in message m... Why stop? There is no reason for me to believe this cat belongs to the neighbors. Did you ask them if they oficially claim this cat? I will bet the answer of the parents will be "NO!". Agree to what L said. There is a tom cat about 3 years old that was left behind by a family that moved out in the next block over from me. When I first moved here, he would come to visit, often spending the whole day on my front porch enjoying the feedings and the attention he got. As it turns this guy is being quite regularly cared for by the couple across the street. He spends several days at a time inside with them but does have his preference for making the rounds of all his friends in the area. He comes to greet me every Friday when I come in off the road. Usually while still unloading my truck gear from the van, he can be heard approaching with a steady stream of meows and yowls. He follows me up on the porch and waits for me to divvy up the leftover deli roast beef that he knows I carry with me just for 'him'. After eating he will hang out on the porch for quite a while as he knows that I'll be back to spend some time with him after stowing my gear. There have been times I've spotted this cat on a porch the next street over from where I live, apparently enjoying some of the same hospitality he finds at my house. A few times he's even spotted me while at some distance several blocks from home and come running to my van, bawling away like he does when he comes from across the street. He will hop in the van without hesitation and ride with me on whatever errands I'm out for curled up on the seat behind me. When we arrive back home, he exits and heads across the street for home. I would never have presumed myself to be his 'owner' without observing a bit of where he goes. That is how I happened to ask the folks across the street about him and got the background info on how they happened to become his owners. |
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This is the first time I "owned" a cat.
You never "owned" this cat in any sense of the word. I looked after her excellently - giving her good food, good bedding, medical attention, groomed her, flea treatment, collar, tags, bells, etc. Excellently, except for the fact that you let her out to face the elements, whatever they are or were. Certainly, she was better cared for by you than before, but not quite excellent. When I came back, she was no where in sight - I was devastated! - she finally came home but only at midnight Your's wasn't her home. I can't take care and claim ownership of the cat when it obviously doesn't want to stay with me anymore and has returned to her own home. You never claimed ownership. Had you claimed ownership, you would have kept her in your house and locked the door. I just hope that the owners will now recognise that the cat is back with them like it or not and they have to start being responsible owners. See above. In view of all this, I am tired and honestly have turned off any pet care in the near future. Why, all you have to do the next time, is keep the cat in your locked home, and you and the cat will live happily ever after for years to come. You'll never have to worry about the cat going somewher and not coming back, for any reason. I'm sorry if I sound harsh. If you search these boards you'll find many discussions regarding indoors vs outdoors cats. I do not believe a beloved pet should be allowed outdoors to face whatever elements await them; i.e, predatory animals, cars, poisons, other loving families taking the "stray/lost" cat for their own. |
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This is the first time I "owned" a cat.
You never "owned" this cat in any sense of the word. I looked after her excellently - giving her good food, good bedding, medical attention, groomed her, flea treatment, collar, tags, bells, etc. Excellently, except for the fact that you let her out to face the elements, whatever they are or were. Certainly, she was better cared for by you than before, but not quite excellent. When I came back, she was no where in sight - I was devastated! - she finally came home but only at midnight Your's wasn't her home. I can't take care and claim ownership of the cat when it obviously doesn't want to stay with me anymore and has returned to her own home. You never claimed ownership. Had you claimed ownership, you would have kept her in your house and locked the door. I just hope that the owners will now recognise that the cat is back with them like it or not and they have to start being responsible owners. See above. In view of all this, I am tired and honestly have turned off any pet care in the near future. Why, all you have to do the next time, is keep the cat in your locked home, and you and the cat will live happily ever after for years to come. You'll never have to worry about the cat going somewher and not coming back, for any reason. I'm sorry if I sound harsh. If you search these boards you'll find many discussions regarding indoors vs outdoors cats. I do not believe a beloved pet should be allowed outdoors to face whatever elements await them; i.e, predatory animals, cars, poisons, other loving families taking the "stray/lost" cat for their own. |
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