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I Do Not Understand My Neighbor
This is not OT. She's the former slave of Schwartzie & Fedders.
She cat sits. Now, without really getting into a debate about indoor-only vs. indoor-outdoor cats, I have to ask this question: If you're cat-sitting and the owner tells you specifically NOT to let the cat outside, wouldn't you adhere to their wishes? This is the second time in about 6 months I've found cats in my back yard that really upset Buffy. She does not like interlopers. The first time this happened there was a long-haired black & white tuxedo cat (Blackie) that came wandering over from the direction of my neighbor's house. Buffy freaked. I mentioned the cat to the neighbor. Oh, she was cat-sitting and it seemed like he wanted to go out. Blackie was 18 years old and in an unfamiliar neighborhood. (I have no idea why she brought the cat to her home rather than caring for it in his home.) This afternoon there was a huge orange tabby which came wandering over from her house. I knew immediately... but I called her, all innocent: have you seen a really large orange tabby out back? "Oh, that's Blaze. I'm cat-sitting." She specifically told me the owner does NOT want him going outside. She claims he escaped the first day and she feared she lost him. (I have NO idea why she is not taking care of these cats in their own homes.) She found him but said, "He likes it! outside!" So she let him out when she was on the patio. "I told him to say where I could see him." Oh sure, he'll obey you. WTH? All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill |
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I Do Not Understand My Neighbor
On 6/21/2016 9:11 PM, jmcquown wrote:
This is not OT. She's the former slave of Schwartzie & Fedders. She cat sits. Now, without really getting into a debate about indoor-only vs. indoor-outdoor cats, I have to ask this question: If you're cat-sitting and the owner tells you specifically NOT to let the cat outside, wouldn't you adhere to their wishes? This is the second time in about 6 months I've found cats in my back yard that really upset Buffy. She does not like interlopers. The first time this happened there was a long-haired black & white tuxedo cat (Blackie) that came wandering over from the direction of my neighbor's house. Buffy freaked. I mentioned the cat to the neighbor. Oh, she was cat-sitting and it seemed like he wanted to go out. Blackie was 18 years old and in an unfamiliar neighborhood. (I have no idea why she brought the cat to her home rather than caring for it in his home.) This afternoon there was a huge orange tabby which came wandering over from her house. I knew immediately... but I called her, all innocent: have you seen a really large orange tabby out back? "Oh, that's Blaze. I'm cat-sitting." She specifically told me the owner does NOT want him going outside. She claims he escaped the first day and she feared she lost him. (I have NO idea why she is not taking care of these cats in their own homes.) She found him but said, "He likes it! outside!" So she let him out when she was on the patio. "I told him to say where I could see him." Oh sure, he'll obey you. WTH? All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill This woman should not have any contact with anyone else's cat. It's too bad you don't know who the owners are, but it sounds like there are several. I would actually suggest that you let them know what is going on if you were familiar with them. The "pet-sitter" (I use that term loosely, under the circumstances) sounds like a control freak, and she is placing those cats in jeopardy. Her actions are unkind to Buffy, and she is also taking a chance that one of the cats will run away and never be found. Worse, one of them could be killed while in her "care." She is also lazy because the best thing for the cats would be to take care of them in their own home(s). MaryL |
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MaryL wrote:
On 6/21/2016 9:11 PM, jmcquown wrote: This is not OT. She's the former slave of Schwartzie & Fedders. She cat sits. Now, without really getting into a debate about indoor-only vs. indoor-outdoor cats, I have to ask this question: If you're cat-sitting and the owner tells you specifically NOT to let the cat outside, wouldn't you adhere to their wishes? This is the second time in about 6 months I've found cats in my back yard that really upset Buffy. She does not like interlopers. The first time this happened there was a long-haired black & white tuxedo cat (Blackie) that came wandering over from the direction of my neighbor's house. Buffy freaked. I mentioned the cat to the neighbor. Oh, she was cat-sitting and it seemed like he wanted to go out. Blackie was 18 years old and in an unfamiliar neighborhood. (I have no idea why she brought the cat to her home rather than caring for it in his home.) This afternoon there was a huge orange tabby which came wandering over from her house. I knew immediately... but I called her, all innocent: have you seen a really large orange tabby out back? "Oh, that's Blaze. I'm cat-sitting." She specifically told me the owner does NOT want him going outside. She claims he escaped the first day and she feared she lost him. (I have NO idea why she is not taking care of these cats in their own homes.) She found him but said, "He likes it! outside!" So she let him out when she was on the patio. "I told him to say where I could see him." Oh sure, he'll obey you. WTH? All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill This woman should not have any contact with anyone else's cat. It's too bad you don't know who the owners are, but it sounds like there are several. I would actually suggest that you let them know what is going on if you were familiar with them. The "pet-sitter" (I use that term loosely, under the circumstances) sounds like a control freak, and she is placing those cats in jeopardy. Her actions are unkind to Buffy, and she is also taking a chance that one of the cats will run away and never be found. Worse, one of them could be killed while in her "care." She is also lazy because the best thing for the cats would be to take care of them in their own home(s). I definitely agree that it's unconscionable to let someone else's cats out, especially when they've explicitly told her not to. She's a disgrace to catsitting! If one of the cats is killed or goes missing because she let them out, how will she explain that to their human when they come to get their cat? I wouldn't be too quick to judge her for having people bring their cats to her, though. We don't know her circumstances. If she has an environment that's acceptable to cats, that wouldn't be so terrible. I do realize that a cat would prefer to be in their own territory, but maybe she can't go to their homes for some reason? This is aside from her letting the cats go outside. Jill, if you can, try to get pictures of her "charges" so that you can show that she is letting them outside. Then I would try to alert people in your complex that this is going on. I'd hate for someone to lose a beloved pet because of this person's incompetence. Isn't she the same person who would go away and not leave enough food for you to feed her cat(s)? And then ask you to go into town to buy more? -- Joyce I want freedom, the right to self expression, everyone's right to beautiful radiant things. -- Emma Goldman |
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I Do Not Understand My Neighbor
On Tue, 21 Jun 2016 22:11:12 -0400, jmcquown
wrote: This is not OT. She's the former slave of Schwartzie & Fedders. She cat sits. Now, without really getting into a debate about indoor-only vs. indoor-outdoor cats, I have to ask this question: If you're cat-sitting and the owner tells you specifically NOT to let the cat outside, wouldn't you adhere to their wishes? This is the second time in about 6 months I've found cats in my back yard that really upset Buffy. She does not like interlopers. The first time this happened there was a long-haired black & white tuxedo cat (Blackie) that came wandering over from the direction of my neighbor's house. Buffy freaked. I mentioned the cat to the neighbor. Oh, she was cat-sitting and it seemed like he wanted to go out. Blackie was 18 years old and in an unfamiliar neighborhood. (I have no idea why she brought the cat to her home rather than caring for it in his home.) This afternoon there was a huge orange tabby which came wandering over from her house. I knew immediately... but I called her, all innocent: have you seen a really large orange tabby out back? "Oh, that's Blaze. I'm cat-sitting." She specifically told me the owner does NOT want him going outside. She claims he escaped the first day and she feared she lost him. (I have NO idea why she is not taking care of these cats in their own homes.) She found him but said, "He likes it! outside!" So she let him out when she was on the patio. "I told him to say where I could see him." Oh sure, he'll obey you. WTH? All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? Not much to add other than she is irresponsible and rather stupid. It's only a matter of time before a cat goes missing. I would be extremely ****ed if somebody I trusted to take care of my girls did that to them. (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) I don't doubt that for a minute! |
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On 6/22/2016 4:03 PM, Bastette wrote:
MaryL wrote: On 6/21/2016 9:11 PM, jmcquown wrote: This is not OT. She's the former slave of Schwartzie & Fedders. If you're cat-sitting and the owner tells you specifically NOT to let the cat outside, wouldn't you adhere to their wishes? All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill This woman should not have any contact with anyone else's cat. It's too bad you don't know who the owners are, but it sounds like there are several. I would actually suggest that you let them know what is going on if you were familiar with them. The "pet-sitter" (I use that term loosely, under the circumstances) sounds like a control freak, and she is placing those cats in jeopardy. Her actions are unkind to Buffy, and she is also taking a chance that one of the cats will run away and never be found. Worse, one of them could be killed while in her "care." She is also lazy because the best thing for the cats would be to take care of them in their own home(s). I definitely agree that it's unconscionable to let someone else's cats out, especially when they've explicitly told her not to. She's a disgrace to catsitting! If one of the cats is killed or goes missing because she let them out, how will she explain that to their human when they come to get their cat? I wouldn't be too quick to judge her for having people bring their cats to her, though. We don't know her circumstances. If she has an environment that's acceptable to cats, that wouldn't be so terrible. I do realize that a cat would prefer to be in their own territory, but maybe she can't go to their homes for some reason? This is aside from her letting the cats go outside. I have no idea why she couldn't do this in their own homes. She's not in any way disabled. She's always out in her yard raking, sweeping, blowing leaves off the driveway. She drives. Jill, if you can, try to get pictures of her "charges" so that you can show that she is letting them outside. Then I would try to alert people in your complex that this is going on. I'd hate for someone to lose a beloved pet because of this person's incompetence. I tried to get a pic of Blaze last night but Buffy was yowling and by the time I grabbed the camera he'd wandered back to her place. Isn't she the same person who would go away and not leave enough food for you to feed her cat(s)? And then ask you to go into town to buy more? Yes, I took care of her cats (in HER home) and I'd often find she was short of cat food. She didn't ask me to buy more, I *had* to buy more so they'd have enough. I'd leave her a note saying I had to buy more food. She didn't offer to reimburse me so I stopped cat sitting. Jill |
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jmcquown wrote:
On 6/22/2016 4:03 PM, Bastette wrote: Isn't she the same person who would go away and not leave enough food for you to feed her cat(s)? And then ask you to go into town to buy more? Yes, I took care of her cats (in HER home) and I'd often find she was short of cat food. She didn't ask me to buy more, I *had* to buy more so they'd have enough. I'd leave her a note saying I had to buy more food. She didn't offer to reimburse me so I stopped cat sitting. Sounds like she's looking out for number 1, and doesn't care much about anyone else, including other people's cats. -- Joyce Hi, this is the Sylvia stress reduction hotline. At the sound of the beep, repeat after me: "This week, let someone else strive for excellence." -- Nicole Hollander |
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On 6/21/2016 10:11 PM, jmcquown wrote:
All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill Guess who knocked on my door this morning asking if I'd seen Blaze? Yep, she let the cat out while she was doing some weeding by one of her patios. She went inside for a minute and when she went back outside he was gone. (Imagine that! A cat wandering off!) Sorry, I haven't seen him. I'd have known if Buffy saw him. LOL Fortunately, she called me about 30 minutes later to tell me he'd come back. One of these days she's going to pull this trick with a cat that will *not* find its' way back. Good luck explaining that to the person who trusted her with their beloved cat. Jill |
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Follow-up (WAS: I Do Not Understand My Neighbor)
On Thu, 23 Jun 2016 16:07:32 -0400, jmcquown
wrote: On 6/21/2016 10:11 PM, jmcquown wrote: All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill Guess who knocked on my door this morning asking if I'd seen Blaze? Yep, she let the cat out while she was doing some weeding by one of her patios. She went inside for a minute and when she went back outside he was gone. (Imagine that! A cat wandering off!) Sorry, I haven't seen him. I'd have known if Buffy saw him. LOL Fortunately, she called me about 30 minutes later to tell me he'd come back. One of these days she's going to pull this trick with a cat that will *not* find its' way back. Good luck explaining that to the person who trusted her with their beloved cat. It's an awkward situation, what with her being your neighbour. I don't think I could help but warn any people I knew that were trusting her to take care of their furballs. |
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Follow-up (WAS: I Do Not Understand My Neighbor)
On 6/23/2016 5:21 PM, Je�us wrote:
On Thu, 23 Jun 2016 16:07:32 -0400, jmcquown wrote: On 6/21/2016 10:11 PM, jmcquown wrote: All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill Guess who knocked on my door this morning asking if I'd seen Blaze? Yep, she let the cat out while she was doing some weeding by one of her patios. She went inside for a minute and when she went back outside he was gone. (Imagine that! A cat wandering off!) Sorry, I haven't seen him. I'd have known if Buffy saw him. LOL Fortunately, she called me about 30 minutes later to tell me he'd come back. One of these days she's going to pull this trick with a cat that will *not* find its' way back. Good luck explaining that to the person who trusted her with their beloved cat. It's an awkward situation, what with her being your neighbour. I don't think I could help but warn any people I knew that were trusting her to take care of their furballs. I've thought about that. I don't know who her "clients" are. No idea who is owned by Blaze. And then there is the fact I don't want to alienate her. She's a ditz, obviously, or determined to be convinced all cats are outdoor cats. But she's been a wonderful neighbor. I don't want to alienate her. Jill |
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On Thu, 23 Jun 2016 17:48:01 -0400, jmcquown
wrote: On 6/23/2016 5:21 PM, Je?us wrote: On Thu, 23 Jun 2016 16:07:32 -0400, jmcquown wrote: On 6/21/2016 10:11 PM, jmcquown wrote: All I could think was Blaze's owner told you NOT to let him out. It's not your decision. He's not your cat! Any thoughts? (I don't plan on letting her cat-sit for Buffy should I ever need it.) Jill Guess who knocked on my door this morning asking if I'd seen Blaze? Yep, she let the cat out while she was doing some weeding by one of her patios. She went inside for a minute and when she went back outside he was gone. (Imagine that! A cat wandering off!) Sorry, I haven't seen him. I'd have known if Buffy saw him. LOL Fortunately, she called me about 30 minutes later to tell me he'd come back. One of these days she's going to pull this trick with a cat that will *not* find its' way back. Good luck explaining that to the person who trusted her with their beloved cat. It's an awkward situation, what with her being your neighbour. I don't think I could help but warn any people I knew that were trusting her to take care of their furballs. I've thought about that. I don't know who her "clients" are. No idea who is owned by Blaze. And then there is the fact I don't want to alienate her. She's a ditz, obviously, or determined to be convinced all cats are outdoor cats. But she's been a wonderful neighbor. I don't want to alienate her. Fair enough too. |
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